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K_Kelly
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18 Nov 2016, 7:51 pm

I wish I can do everyone a favor and stop being so critical and over-analyzing everything in my life. It has left all progress in my life totally paralyzed.

I want to figure out how to "be more positive" > I have to seek out a logical, concrete process online, sort of like a manual to "be more positive" and it sends me into a destructive cycle.

I'm looking for actual advice here. I feel like a worthless, unproductive, unemotional robot of a human being. I have no enjoyment or pleasure in the things I do, even if I were to do something considered mildly interesting right now, I would feel emotionally detached.

Emotional detachment is making me miserable. However, I can still feel negative emotion. I think I could be broken for life. I guess I'm also afraid of failure.



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18 Nov 2016, 11:12 pm

Right now...I envy you your emotional detachment... I just got dumped... and I am in such pain that I would kill to be able to get away from this.


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18 Nov 2016, 11:43 pm

Hi K_Kelly,

I just went over and put up a new post on your other thread called "I want to go to Heaven to see God, but I'm having trouble" ... because to my mind, you seem to be overwhelmed with worry and are dealing with it by shutting down.

I invite you to go and read my post there, or else I'll be happy to copy and paste it into this thread if that makes it easier for you.

Things CAN get better. There IS hope.

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19 Nov 2016, 7:56 am

Feralucce wrote:
Right now...I envy you your emotional detachment... I just got dumped... and I am in such pain that I would kill to be able to get away from this.


Once you detach from longing of that sour relationship you would feel nothing even if that person died in front of you. Its called cutting ties :p



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19 Nov 2016, 8:06 am

K_Kelly wrote:
I wish I can do everyone a favor and stop being so critical and over-analyzing everything in my life. It has left all progress in my life totally paralyzed.

I want to figure out how to "be more positive" > I have to seek out a logical, concrete process online, sort of like a manual to "be more positive" and it sends me into a destructive cycle.

I'm looking for actual advice here. I feel like a worthless, unproductive, unemotional robot of a human being. I have no enjoyment or pleasure in the things I do, even if I were to do something considered mildly interesting right now, I would feel emotionally detached.

Emotional detachment is making me miserable. However, I can still feel negative emotion. I think I could be broken for life. I guess I'm also afraid of failure.


Perhaps you could try
http://www.volunteermatch.org
Put in your postal code and they'll give you pages of volunteer work available, either Virtual or ZipCode.
You Click "I want to help" and only then do they give your e-mail to the one you chose.

Mostly with volunteer work, I find people who need my help (easy for me), and that takes my mind off myself. It really works well, I hope you'll give it a try.



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20 Nov 2016, 2:12 pm

K_Kelly wrote:
I wish I can do everyone a favor and stop being so critical and over-analyzing everything in my life. It has left all progress in my life totally paralyzed.

I want to figure out how to "be more positive" > I have to seek out a logical, concrete process online, sort of like a manual to "be more positive" and it sends me into a destructive cycle.

I'm looking for actual advice here. I feel like a worthless, unproductive, unemotional robot of a human being. I have no enjoyment or pleasure in the things I do, even if I were to do something considered mildly interesting right now, I would feel emotionally detached.

Emotional detachment is making me miserable. However, I can still feel negative emotion. I think I could be broken for life. I guess I'm also afraid of failure.
Me, to though mines, been going on for a few years. [/color]


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20 Nov 2016, 10:58 pm

green0star wrote:
Once you detach from longing of that sour relationship you would feel nothing even if that person died in front of you. Its called cutting ties :p


Unfortunately...I am not capable of that, either...

I still ache from a break up 20 years ago... but this woman... was... my... one... or so I thought


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