Grandma wants me to visit for Thanksgiving

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My grandma, who I haven't met in several months, wants me to visit her for Thanksgiving. My concerns for this are, 1.) That my uncle who lives nearby will probably be there, and he always likes to criticize me for going on disability, and 2.) That my landlady already invited me to Thanksgiving with her family and I accepted.

What should I do?

It would be kind of weird if you went to Landlady Thanksgiving instead of Grandma Thanksgiving. However, I have almost never gone to my own family's Thanksgivings in favors of those of my in-laws because my in-laws are nicer people and they also make better food. And I totally don't feel bad about that. So these are the factors I see that you need to go over in your decision:

*Do you have some sort of beef with your Grandma to justify not going? Is she mean or something?
*How's the health/age of your Grandma? Is it conceivable that she doesn't have many Thanksgivings left?
*Do you have a special connection with your Landlady? Is she a good friend or did she do you a special favor?
*Is the food markedly better at one or the other?
*Is one or the other at a more desirable location?
*Will it cause you a great deal of stress to either go to Grandma Thanksgiving or get out of Landlady Thanksgiving?

Having to choose between social opportunities is a nice problem to have.

Since you already accepted the invitation to dinner with your landlady, you should keep that engagement. But the Thanksgiving weekend is a full four days long.

Tell your Grandma you already accepted an invitation for Thanksgiving, but ask if you can come visit her the next day or on the weekend. It's okay to ask about timing your visit for when your uncle is not going to be there, and it's okay to tell her why.

Have a nice holiday!

Bea is very smart.

I would go to the land lady for Thanksgiving and promise grandma something extra special. Maybe an all day visit or going out to eat at her favorite place.

Grandma gets to be queen for the day, and no tackless uncle.

Winning in my book.

Going there is complicated. She lives 45 minutes away, the bus doesn't run on weekends, and probably not Friday. What should I do?

Check on that Friday thing. It's not a legal holiday, so I bet it does run that day.

I also agree with Bea. I'd take that suggestion if I was in your situation.

Still haven't called her or done anything about this. I wish I could just forget it.