Anyone ever believed they were a burden to others?

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I've had this belief since growing up from early childhood with family. Its a belief that is deeply rooted in me. I've now temporarily moved away from family and it has got better but I still often think I'm a burden to others. I always put the blame on me even if its something that probably isn't. Like if I want someone to come with me somewhere but they say they have a lot of work, I think they don't want to come just because it was me. Or if my housemate locks their door at night its because they think I specifically, might try to go in there or something. I want to improve on myself moving away but these thoughts are still creeping up.
Another thing I try to do is mind read. Example if I've been downstairs for a while then went back in my room, when my housemate goes downstairs as soon as I get in my room I think its because they didnt want to talk to me or see me. I am obsessed with thinking about what others are thinking of me, and their thoughts and emotions.

Its thoughts like this which paralyze me enough to try and achieve my goal of being in a relationship and many other avenues of life it has just got ridiculous now I'm always making excuses of how I can be a burden to people.

Does anyone else feel the same or how can these thoughts be stopped? It makes me sad and sleepless often.

Yes. I first thought that in 6th grade I was a burden and I didn't believe my mother when she said it was her job to do all that and it's part of being a parent. I saw her writing checks for my sessions and saw her paying for my medicine so it made me feel bad and she didn't have to do that for my brothers but she said they cost money for other things I don't do. My mom did pay out of pocket than insurance because they wouldn't have covered them. Then when I was in my teens I felt like an embarrassment to y family because my mother had told me I embarrass my brothers so I believed that for so many years.

I still feel like a burden as an adult so I try not to be one. I don't rely on my parents for help.

I don't feel like a burden, I know I am burden on others

If left unchecked these thoughts seem to lead to self esteem issues and suicidal thoughts.

Every day.

Yes, I use to a lot when I was younger. When I use to come home head to toe in bruisers and cuts, she use to get very upset because the system was not helping me, that hurt me more then the beatings ever did.

Oh hell yes, I felt like that since my earliest childhood memory, and the guilt.

I feel like a burden sometimes because I have no mechanical aptitude.

I do every day to my parents. I'm surprised I made it to this age.

I used to feel that I was a burden to my parents before I moved out to live on my own, 10 years ago.

I require a lot of extra care, so it seems unrealistic to not view that as a burden to my family.
But I don't think they resent me for it.

I sometimes wonder if I have 'equal' relationships with others, as opposed to them taking care of me. I can look after myself and all, but my social immaturity and severe shyness can make it difficult for me to function normally, and my good, understanding friends realise this and try to help me. I worry that I might just be 'taking' in the relationship, and not 'giving' enough.

What you're talking about could be, in my opinion, classed as paranoia. You seem unjustifiably fixated on the idea that so many small actions by others are informed by you, or intended to affect you. I'm sorry if this seems harsh (I'm not good at tempering my expression to avoid the misconception of rudeness or anger, please be assured that I am not intending to be argumentative or rude). I would suggest that you discuss it with a professional health worker.

[Color=#00b2ff] not at all.

To often .

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