Unrealistic dreams

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I have unrealistic dreams of things that will never happen and they make me feel sad. The main one i have right now is my dream to get a dog, more specifically an autism service dog. It feels so ridiculous to be sad about this, but it makes me so sad that i do not have one nor that i probably will never get one.
Does anyone else have the same kind of problem?
I just feel so stupid for feeling like this.
My mother thinks “i am too high-functioning for a service dog" and she is "doubting my need to have one”. It makes me feel so sad. Dogs and animals in general make me so happy and if i could have a dog that would be trained for me it would make me feel so much better (less depression, less anxiety, less meltdowns) these are already achieved by a pet dog. The effects of a service dog would be so amazing and i feel stupid for wanting one and spending my time on dreaming about one.

What? Service dogs aren't dependent for only low or high-functioning, blind, disabled whatever. You said it best...less depression, less anxiety, less meltdowns so don't feel stupid for wanting one. Start with a doctor's note.

I had a service lizard for a few years. Yes, it was official too. All I needed was a letter from a psychiatrist.

i might be able to move to my grandmothers in a few years, if she survives cancer and still feels ok. If i move to her place i could get a dog

Animals are good for everyone, autistic or not. I hope you do get a dog someday. Pets are not just good therapy, they can also be loyal friends.

I too once had unrealistic dreams/plans but the pain and frustrations of not achieving those plans has force me to lessen and lessen the degree of my plans to the point that I don't even have plans anymore to avoid frustrations...the way I see it you're at the point right now where your dreams are actually very realistic and not to achieve those will lower your desire for planning or dreaming for your future...so...do yourself a favor and get yourself that dog...

I had the pipe dream of working in a bank when I was between the ages 10 and 14. Everybody kept telling me it was a pipe dream, except for my resource room teacher. She kept on saying, "I want you guys to be successful." Between 1996 and early last year I kept asking the bank close to me if they were hiring someone to greet customers. Low and behold, I'm now working at a larger bank under the same name that's in my area.

My dream was to own an amusement park filled with all these wonderful 1920s era wooden roller coasters. Well that's not gonna happen. But I do plan on building a miniature amusement park, in HO scale. And I have collected six historic original blueprints for 1920s roller coasters that I plan to build in HO scale for my park.

I used to, and sometimes still do, dream of owning my own company. This hypothetical company most often deals with technology, but I've also had ideas of animation companies, publishers and sportswear manufacturers.

My unusual dream is to attend a tennis tournament, meet my favorite player, Denis Istomin, interview him and write his life story. I don't know who would read it, but it would be fun to write.

Part of me really wants to be an actor, and even make it big. I'll be just fine if it turns out to be relatively minor fame, but I have sometimes convinced myself of reasons why I can be a good actor. It's not like acting is only for an elite few with special looks. I wonder if it's even a realistic dream in my future.

I envy their ability to work hard and be behind the camera so much.

It's not a stupid dream, I have the same one. I really want to get an autism service dog when I move out and live on my own, but my family don't think I really need one because I'm "too high functioning". They laugh at my reasons for wanting one, which include providing deep pressure to reduce anxiety, helping me find my way back to my car or house when I get lost because my sense of direction is virtually zero, and putting a barrier between myself and other people, because crowds of people encroaching on my space stress me out massively. My biggest worry is that a dog is only going to make my anxiety worse, because I'll have to be confrontational when people try to deny me access to public spaces, and I'll be the center of attention from strangers wherever I go, which I hate.

Don't give up on your dream, I have no doubt that you'll find a way to make it happen!

People always told me that wanting to be a veterinarian was a stupid idea and just a pipe dream. They said it would be too hard for me because I have trouble with math (I have dyscalculia but it was missed until I was an adult). I volunteer at a veterinarian's office now and all three of the actual vets who work there have told me that it was challenging, but not impossible. The people who say it's impossible or just a "pipe dream" are just naysayers.