I need a job..and I need it in a month or two

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K_Kelly
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27 Nov 2016, 2:57 pm

Please, I need a job that gives me money. The problem is that I can't pinpoint exactly what I want in writing, but I am desperate to get it in a month or two. I feel so socially ret*d, I have no work or soft people skills. Starting from nothing at age 25. :(

I need help. I wonder if my current approach is even working. This is pretty urgent.



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27 Nov 2016, 3:12 pm

And I don't think girls want a guy stuck on social security either.



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27 Nov 2016, 3:23 pm

K_Kelly wrote:
Please, I need a job that gives me money. The problem is that I can't pinpoint exactly what I want in writing, but I am desperate to get it in a month or two. I feel so socially ret*d, I have no work or soft people skills. Starting from nothing at age 25. :(

I need help. I wonder if my current approach is even working. This is pretty urgent.

Write a list of the one-to-three skills you can do well enough that someone would employ you to do it. Then, prepare a one-page resume or c.v. which describes what you can do. Do this for each of your skills. When that is done, make several copies and share them (or mail them) to businesses you know could use your skills. Include a short handwritten note asking for a chance to discuss your skills with each business manager in the next few days or weeks. After a week, telephone each of the businesses and ask if they received your letter. Ask them again to give you a chance to speak with them about your abilities.

The important part of all this is speaking one-on-one with the person who can employ you. Try to be honest and friendly. Speak in short sentences with phrases like "I know how to...," "I have learned how to...," and "I believe I can...." If they decline hiring you, ask if they know of other businesses which might need your skills.

Meanwhile, talk to everyone you know about their knowledge of employers who might find work for you. Word of mouth is critical to gaining employment.

Good luck! :)


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27 Nov 2016, 3:26 pm

When going for a job, it's best to focus on your strengths, skills, abilities, interests, and the job titles that you want ... and also match that up with what you studied in school.

What kind of job do you want, specifically?



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27 Nov 2016, 3:32 pm

That's it. I don't know how it's possible to evaluate my strengths and skills because I have no self-awareness at all. It's like I never developed since I was 2.



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27 Nov 2016, 3:37 pm

Well, most of us on the spectrum have "special interests"
(which I just prefer to call interests) ...
so, what are you interested in?

As an example, I'm interested in art, writing, astronomy, computers, and foreign languages like Spanish.

Also, what did you study in school? What were your favorite classes? What were your best classes?



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27 Nov 2016, 3:54 pm

Have you considered finding a simple, low stress, repetitive job in your area with little to no demands on social skills...it doesn't have to be a grandeuos or high paying job for you to build self confidence you just need a job you can be good at....and as for the girls...can you afford to divide your focus on both having a job and dating right now...? :D


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27 Nov 2016, 10:04 pm

Well, culture dictates that a man can't date unless he already has a job.



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28 Nov 2016, 3:02 am

Think back to the last few years: was there something that family and friends often asked you (specifically you) to do for them? (like cleaning out pc software, optimizing smartphone software, cooking, designing interiors, anything).
These will be your marketable skills, try to get a job in a related field.

For example: if you are often asked to fix pc's, smartphones and tablets, you might want to look into Best-Buys "geek squad" or similar helpdesks.
Another example: if you are quick to find mistakes in tekst (grammar- and spellingwise mainly), you might be a good proofreader for a magazine.

Everyone has a marketable skill, but finding it can indeed be hard.

Do not focus on job titles, focus on the job description. a "proofreader" is exactly the same as "the guy that makes sure that there are no spelling mistakes", even though the second one doesn't have a fancy title.



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28 Nov 2016, 6:13 am

K_Kelly wrote:
Well, culture dictates that a man can't date unless he already has a job.
then focus on finding a job first...and when your comfortable enough with your job you can then start dating...personally I cannot have both without stretching my limits...so I can only choose either a career or a love life but don't let my limitations affect your choices...try it for yourself then decide if you can balance both without wearing you out... :D


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