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A common theme in fiction is that of the sanctuary. Ray Bradbury had the book people, Ayn Rand had Galt's Gulch. All my life I have needed a sanctuary.

I and my life are wrecks. I was born decades before AS was diagnosed. I have fared poorly - my fault. I have been socially clumsy in critical situations, I have worked for the wrong goals, I have made a mess of my life. I have not known why and so have beaten myself up for being so foolish.

Then I found Asperger's Syndrom. This central organizing principle makes sense of all. Other than the highly disputed "Aspies have no sense of humor and cannot use analogies. . ." crtieria, it all fits. Further I find none of me that is not AS,

Better, my life makes sense! I have lived it just as an aspie not aware of her situation and sans any external help would live her life. I have gradualy learned how to sort of fit, and to value my own goals rather than those of othrs, and to control some of my issues.

Then I found Wrong Planet. My sanctuary! We share stories of joy and pain, cry on each other's shoulders. We are silly, just silly - but it is our silliness, it is my silliness. We can learn from each other. We offer hugs to the wounded.

I love this Wonderful Planet. I love everyone here - with exception thus: I do not like the hurtful. We get flamers and trolls. While I am old and have been called worse than anyone can say here, some here are, well, vulnerable.

I have seen feelings hurt. I have seen defensive reactions. Some people have left from their pains. If you don't think someone is really (to your specifications) not properly here keep it to yourself. Don't hurt anyone. WP ought not be a place to receive wounds, it should be the place to recover from them.

People come and go. It costs nothing to jion, the gate is not locked. Stay if you want, leave if not.

Thanks to Alex, to the mods, and all the good people here. Hugs to all.

Thanks...

. . .more than welcome, and thanks for being my friends.

you rock

you all do

well im not good at socializing, i dont know about you

Well said, this makes me feel better.

Hi Nutbag,

What a good post! I feel much the same way you do. Pity, though, the way we apparently have to spend the first couple of decades of our lives in a state of perpetual confusion and agony, before things start making sense. Will this change, you think, as AS is becoming more widely known? Will it at some point be understood that NT templates/models/ways don't work for an Aspie kid preparing him/herself for life?

Thank you to all!

And to Willem, I have dedicated my life (whatis left of it) to an attempt to give new aspoes a chance at a bettefr life than I have had. It sort of makes my woes worthwhile.

Excellent post!

While my history with AS is much shorter in length, I do see where your coming from.

Wellsaid! Its like you said it for me. thanx

thanks, nutbag, I am totally with you.
For me the groundbreaking online resource was Amanda Baggs' site Get the Truth out which ultimately led me to here and this new homebase.

Well said, and I think you express the way many of us feel.

I am so glad to knw people like you!

I think they came up with the term AS quite a while ago. Just not too many people knew about it in your time.

Well said! I feel the same way