Dealing with someone that dosen't leave you alone?

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I've started attending this social group I go to (an ASD group as a matter of fact) and I met this guy and he seemed really friendly towards me when I met him and we exchanged numbers. But now he just won't leave me alone - he's just obsessed with me. I was flattered at first and enjoyed having someone to text to. But he wants to do it for hours. I try and let him know I may not be interested talking all time without saying it by doing shorter replies or not replying but he's determined to talk - not that there's anything wrong with that. I eventually say I am busy doing things but he then says things like "I should just disappear then" and takes it personally. Maybe he does not pick up the signs I don't want to always talk (I have mild ASD but think he is possibly higher on spectrum)

What's the best way to approach this without coming across cold and not wanting to talk? Its nice to have someone to talk to especially someone similar, but as said above he wants to REALLY talk and I like my own space offline and online!

In these kind of situations, you just need to be direct. Explain to him that your have personal boundaries and that you require time to yourself in order to get things done. You're better speaking to him in person though, rather than by text. Don't say it with a nasty tone or anything. Just try to be semi-assertive about it.

If he gets upset, it's not your fault. So you don't need to carry any feeling of guilt around with you.