What life has taught me over 40 years

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Things I have been taught by the world. When I don't succeed its my fault no matter how hard I have tried to do what was asked of me. When I hurt, I should be condemned and punished harshly for how I express it, with no consideration given to why I have acted out as I have.
Sum total being to say ; your not wanted here, everyone else would be happier if you were gone and didn't have to be dealt with.
Intelligence, ability, effort, non of these have any value if you don't fit into the mold. And there is nothing you will ever be able to do, short of performing miracles that will ever change this reality.

I'll be 40 in two months. I recognize that you were letting off steam with this post, but I think it has merit as a regular thread. So I'm going to dive in and contribute.

What I have learned in 40 years:

-Things are usually not as big a deal as I think they are.
-Life is much easier if I try not to be a jerk.
-If something sucks, I should just let it go and stop trying to fix it.
-There are tons of cool, nice, little things to enjoy in the world.

Some things I've learned from life are:
1. If it is meant to be, it will be
2. You have to love yourself
3. Don't set your bar too low
4 .Do what is best for you
5. People always act in their own best interest; acknowledge that and don't think people are out to screw you over





P.S. : ( SocOf Autism) I live in VA too, I see that you and your husband and boys live in SW VA

Things life has taught me:

1. It isn't your "fault," but you can control how you react to things.
2. Be positive, yet careful, especially when driving. Some people are nuts out there!
3. Before 2013, when I finally got my driver's license, I did have feelings of worthlessness.
4. I need to abide by what I call "The Istomin Rule," named for my favorite inspirational tennis player, Denis Istomin, "Never look back, only forward." That's hard to do, but I try. I will attempt to be more life smart in 2017 to avoid the mistakes that hindered my full growth even last year.
5. Listen and observe

- It's more important to be happy, than to be normal.
- It's okay to admit that there are some things you simply can't do.
- Forgive yourself for blundering through life because you didn't understand autism.
- Forgive others for treating you badly, because they didn't understand autism.
- Resolve to move forward in a better direction, now that you know.

Here are some things that I've learned in life

Anything is possible if you have a dream.
It's better to be myself than it is to try and be normal.
To believe in myself and follow my dreams.
What works for everybody else might not work for me.
To never let myself be miserable at the expense of someone else's happiness.

I totally identify with what you are saying and there is much truth in your statement. It's the reality you and I live in. Things have a way of working out though. People doing bad things often fail all at once just before it looks like they can't lose. Perseverance matters.