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hi
when i was 9 i get my diagnose of ADHD and learning disability.
during the test they made an I.Q. test. at 9 it was 130 now i am 15 and it is 135. not good.
it is a bit over average as i understood but people overstimate me. i can't understand why. because of some stupid multiple answers test (how can people really belive that a number could describe people's abilities??) people think i can do lot's of things that i can't. i have a good memory, just that, i have not to study to make good tests at school but that is all.
sometimes i can't speak, i have almost no friends and i am bored all the times (unless i study capitals or flags), clearly i have nothing more than my schoolmates
have you ever had a similar experience?

sorry about my english

130-135 isnt "slightly above average", it's in the superior range.

Also, the most gifted people are the one's who also suffer from the greatest level of boredom.

My IQ is 115 and that doesn't really bother me. It's good to have hobbies to keep your mind off such things.

i havent been IQ tested, although i suspect (as do almost every teacher i had and my parents) that mine is above average. How much i cant say.
IQ tests dont equal being good at everything or being smart or being good at everything.

In life, your expectations won't be cut back. You need to find a different way to do things, do it your way, but still get them done. Many Aspies and people with ADHD tend to be bad at multitasking, not all, so do one thing at a time. Also, last I checked, 135 is an above average IQ.

i don't like how assessors sneak IQ tests into other tests without the recipient's knowledge. that's what happened to me when i was 15, i got a score of 113. i believe if i had known i'd be tested for IQ, my score would have been different, probably because i just wanted to get it over and done with, not paying as much attention as i could have.

did they tell you?

when i was your age, i didn't study for tests at all, either, and i did fine. now that i'm in college and the pace is much faster, i've found that i NEED to study beforehand if i want to keep my head above the water, so to speak, and maybe that'll be the case for you too when/if you get there. perhaps you're not being challenged enough?

anyway, that number does not mean a great deal. it is an indicator of how good you are at those specific tests, and not much more.

It's a difficult battle when you possess both high intellect and learning disabilities. The ADHD also interferes.

they didn't, i don't know why

Many people are like "fair weather friends" when it comes to talents and abilities. They want to support you when you're good at something, but always tell you to challenge yourself when you're not good at something else.

Sometimes it's better to focus on what you like and what helps your general wellbeing. Then when something is challenging, maybe only do what you have to. If something is unpleasant and unnecessary, it might be better for you to avoid it or change it somehow.

So maybe ignore what other people expect of you and make your own expectations?

sounds like one of their devilish tactics used to get a score, no matter what. their reasoning might be that if you were told, their data would be inaccurate because you may have refused to participate or deliberately gimped yourself.

i'd certainly do that.

That's a really good point. Many people get low scores on tests because they elect not to answer.

Exactly.
I have a high IQ ... was once tested at 138.
If there wasn't a math section, I would definitely test at genius level.
I excel at languages and art. I stink at math.
So I hire an accountant (and her cats!)
Yes, it costs money.
But it's cheaper than the mistakes I would make doing my taxes on my own.

Last edited by the_phoenix on 28 Jan 2017, 9:54 am, edited 1 time in total.

Yeah. It's WAY above average. It puts you in the upper two percent of the population. And qualifies you for Mensa.