Is It Normal....

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Is it normal to feel lonely in a room filled with crowded people?

I don't know if it is normal, but I often do...but then again, I am not normal...

It's a common feeling amongst those who got no one to relate to and relate from.
No one to resonate with, no one to share having common with.

It is also a common feeling amongst those who are simply feel out of place, one that longs to be belonged.

It is also common towards those who felt rather emotionally short or held back, no matter the proximity and effort done to fulfill the above.

It is also common to those who overlooks a crowd, seeing each and all apparently dead and/or cold to the world -- and assuming you're the only one who is not.

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It’s normal for me.....

I would expect it to be pretty normal if you are not an extrovert and don’t know many/any of the people there.

Me? In a crowded situation, I just panic and look for the best way out, no time for loneliness.

If I am in a crowd of strangers where there is no expectation of interacting (a shopping mall, for examplr), then no. If there is an expectation people should interact with me and no one chooses to, then yes. An example would be a party where I know multiple guests, but everyone is busy talking to someone they know better than me.

Generally speaking though, I avoid gatherings like that. I don't like crowds or small talk or noise. When I must attend, I usually end up finding a quiet corner and read a book or look busy on my phone if I can't leave. Sometimes someone else will seek out the quiet too, and occasionally that leads to a nice discussion.

I suspect a majority of humans feel this way, except for the 'crowdmasters'

*see elephant seal beachmasters

It is if you have ASD.

It depends on what the crowd is doing. I have fond memories of watching movies in a theater, not knowing anyone else there, but joining in with the laughter. But at a dinner party? I can easily feel lonely when around people at that sort of event.

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Sure, if you aren't connecting with anybody on a meaningful level you can be very lonely in a big crowd.

Trying not to be influenced by crowds...... become. Hyper aware of things around me , burning up any reserve energy , I might have available . So am always looking for the exit . Am finding myself doing the best I can to mimick , what I think someone , might behave like until, a exit opens . Almost a art form to appear as though you might belong . Occasionally, if am acquainted with someone the intensity of the need to vacate is less intense.
Then I have to remember not to start going on and on on some topic . I happen to be aware of,what might be related. To the conversation And actually feeling as though I can safely speak with the person.
This only works in smaller group settings. Although when younger managed to attend some concert type event if was accompanied by someone , I knew well . But that was very rare. & Long ago.