I'm from China, what can we do for my ASD boy

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Hello, I have a 6-year-old son. When he was 3 and more earlier, he didn't like to talk, and didn't like to touch other people either. I just thought he likes he father as an introverted young man. But I'm wrong. When he is a littler bigger, he still dislikes touching other people, and he always play with his toy-a wood horse. He even didn't look at me. When I took his toy away, he started to cry and yielded, even beat me. I'm so sad about my boy's condition. We have tested a lot of treating methods, like behavioral therapy, speech therapy, communication intervention, but it seems that doesn't work for him. Therefore, I beg your guys could you give some advice to me? I'm so scared he didn't know I'm his mother one day.

Please help.

Maybe its get better with the time, maybe.

Try music lessons. It's great. But find a teacher who is extra kind, and not in a hurry.

The main thing that helped me the most was acceptance. Another thing was lots of patience. My parents talked to people who knew how to handle autistic children and they read books on the subject. They enrolled me in special education and got me in therapy like you are doing. It took until i was between 8 and 10 years old before my parents started seeing any real results. I have improved a lot in areas. But I am and always will be autistic. It is who and what I am. I still usually do not look at people when they talk to me. I still mostly do not talk at all. I still do not like being touched. I still need comfort objects like your son's toy horse. But I am content most of the time. I am 16 now, but still need to be looked after. I am still developing. It takes a lot of time.

Autistics are people, so like other people, we do mature just not in typical ways. The hardest part for non autistic parents of autistic children is accepting that their child is not the typical person their parents expected them to be, all of the expected things you expected are not going to happen. This does not mean your child will not grow up to be successful and happy. There are autistic adults who as kids were more severe than yours, banging their head against walls, smearing feces on walls, and just violent who became successful adults. How do we know that? They became well known and told us.

Could you recommend some institutions which could do the music lessons? I never heard in China, so I wanna try. I should do something to make him more happy, and let him do what he wants but instruct him properly.

We would be glad to help.

I will explain from my perspective towards my parents. (I'm much older now but I was here as well, and me and my whole family remember it).

Firstly, if he gets angry it's not often at you, and he doesn't really want to hurt you because he likes to, but because he's frustrated and he doesn't know how to deal with it. On the outside it looks bad, but on the inside it's various uncontrollable and unidentifiable emotions which are all overwhelming you at once.

Secondly, the best way to communicate with him is by not touching but talking, in a direct way. Tell him exactly what you want him to hear and he will hear it, but if you are vague he will most likely misunderstand or get confused and ignore you. I did this often to my parents, and they were often frustrated until we discovered what the problem was.

Thirdly, he is most likely intelligent, as is the case with a lot of people with AS. If he finds something he likes I'm fairly certain he will become very good at it, and I would recommend that you encourage this as much as possible.

I hope this helps some.

Thank you for all your advice. I understand that, doing something what he wants will be better for him, but I just want to try more. Like I just heard before, the dolphin therapy or hippotherapy, even the stem cell, I just wanna try something new even though if it will work or not So if somebody try these therapies before, did that work?

I would avoid any therapy that might cause potential damage to his body.

There are therapies out there which could do just that.

They promise a "cure" for autism--but, instead, they make things worse.

In other words, don't just go with any therapy that promises anything. Thoroughly research it.

Thanks doctor. I'm too worried and I have no idea which therapy will work for my boy. I understand I should let him do what he likes, but I wanna find some complementary therapies and know more about it. Like sir said, research it. So could you give me some different methods even though it didn't work, I just wanna know more about ASD's treatment. According to the suggestion from all of yours, I will consider it seriously and share with my family.

Thanks for the help my friends

I am not a doctor. I wish I was one!

Do they have Montessori schools in China? Sometimes, they are good for children with autism--because some people with autism are visual thinkers and learners. And the Montessori method is very visual.

Is your son able to read yet?

I had good parents who loved me.
Thanks to growing up in a good home,
I am now a technical writer
and an artist who has had my work shown in museums and art galleries.

Please love your boy for who he is,
and do not try any therapy that might harm him.

Thank you all. By the way, there are some behavioral training institutions for ASD, so is the same as the Montessori school? I have no idea about the montessori school. Except for the school, is there any other hospitals or institute I should go to consult. Thank you for your help.

Have you tried ABA? I would try to contact this place:

http://www.oliviasplace.org/