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My name is Giovanni. I'm 27 years old. I'll be 28 next month. I'm single and I've never had friends. Never dated. I'm attractive. I love how I am. I'm average build. Brown hair. Brown eyes. 5 ft 6.

I'm here hoping to meet people and make friends.

Right now I'm going to school but no work. I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome while in Jr High School. Then again in high school I was told I had it.

School was really rough for me, especially high school. I'd feel jealous everyone had friends and guys would have girlfriends.

I've always felt alienated around people. I was always alone. Still am. Only people I was close to were my parents. I lost both of them a year ago. 5 months apart. My mother died from a blood clot in her lung and my father died at home of lung cancer. I took care of my parents.

Now I don't know what to do with myself. I go to school but have no friends. And I sometimes feel sick of this life. I feel ignored or invisible. I'm just watching my life go by and I'm just getting old.

I have interest in old movies and old technology. I'm into collecting stuff. As a kid I'd always organize stuff and line up my toys in some order.

Loud noises bother me. In school I had trouble playing sports. Couldn't catch a ball because I'd blink. I remember having trouble looking at people when talking to them.

I still feel uncomfortable around people. I hate being in crowded public places. I feel everyone is looking at me.

Hi Giovanni, welcome,

I'm so sorry for the loss of your parents, my heart genuinely goes out to you.

I lost my own parents a few years back so know the pain of that loss.

I've got kids still living at home your age and wish I could help you in some way.

You'll find some really lovely and helpful people here, people that can understand your loneliness and maybe even become your friend.

Before ASD was officially a thing, I was going to meetings of Adult Children Anonymous - a catch-all for people who come from dysfunctional families. They could probably relate to genetically arrested development well enough. I found them friendly and predictable. We even went bowling together, which none of us normally did, just to practice our social skills on each other. It turned out to be a bad place to meet people for a special relationship, though.

Dear One , hate that name. Adult children. Makes it sound as if we're severely handicapped. Like we can't think or care for ourselves. That's just the vibe I get when I hear adult children.

I agree bowling isn't quite the place to be. Some of the wrong people hang out there. And like to start trouble.

"Adult Children" just means people with some aspect that didn't mature, not an overall disability. Our bowling alley was family-friendly. There are always such options. We also tried miniature golf. The advantage of such a group is that it gives you a safe space to practice being with people, and sometimes extra feedback on how to improve things.