Why Do Comments Like This Make Me Angry

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I don't understand why it irks me so much so I will try and give you an example.

Me & my GF share cooking duties ( although she's a lot better at it and does it more than me )

My GF will turn the oven on then ask me if I will put the chips in , then a bit later ask me to put the fish in , then it's almost an unwritten rule that I will dish it up as well.

I feel like she is trying to trick me into making food without me realising.

I'd have no problem if she just asked at the beginning if I will make food. It's the way she goes about that angers me.

Does anyone see a problem here , am I just being an arse , or is something else going on?

Could any of this be related to AS for either of us? ( i.e. the way she asks or the way I react )

I can't say if it's an AS thing but I will often be particularly irritated if asked to do something I wasn't planing on doing/ expecting to do. Recently I am better at it though, I just grumble and then get on with it.

Perhaps make an explicit agreement each night as to who is going to be cooking? My GF and I have recently agreed that while we are on a diet, she will cook and I will do the clean up and dishes. So much less pressure and as long as we both stick to it then everyone is happy.

A lot of couples have issues dividing up household chores.

I do all the cooking at home (tonight it was tagliatelle with a king-prawn, tomato and chiili sauce with rocket and Grana Padano), but back when we shared doing it we always left each other to it. Would I get upset in your position? I don't know, as I really enjoy cooking and would be more than happy to take over (it's my quiet time and everyone knows to leave me alone). It does seem a little dishonest though.

I'm single.
If I don't cook,
I don't eat.
Good thing I enjoy cooking ...

Sounds nice and light to me.....

It sounds like she is giving you step by step instructions. I would just come out and ask her one night - what shall we have for dinner? How about.....

Then whatever you two agree on, tell her you'll make it and it will be ready about.....

That way she shouldn't be telling you step by step instructions. THEN, on another night, say I'm feeling a bit tired. Can you make dinner tonight and I'll do it another night this week?

Kind of mix things up and make it known you will cook on your own something that you both have agreed upon. Maybe one night surprise her with a yummy recipe she has never had!