How often do u stay home for?

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Haven't really seen this question asked for some reason, direct me to the thread if it exists.

Personally I'll stay home a month or sometimes even longer at a time, just doing my own thing (gaming, surfing the net etc.), unless some friends invite me to go out, at which point I'll usually go with them, unless it's a really busy place like a party or a club etc. I'm not in college now so I don't have any "mandatory" socializing to do, and pretty much the only time I go out is with friends, to go out with birthday meals for family, and sometimes for lunch at a family members house, and that's basically it (although I'm trying to be more social). I get food delivered, and I get most of my social interaction needs met on the internet anyway... People can't necessarily tell I'm on the spectrum, so I just tell them I'm highly introverted when they ask me why I don't always want to go out with them.

I only ever really socialize on a night in not so busy places, mainly because I get stared at hard whenever I go out during the day because of my "unexplained weirdness" .

Welllll... I don't talk to people in real (except for mama, grandma, brother, ect..) so I'm at home a lot. I mostly lay in bed and play my 3ds if I'm stressed/overstimulated or I play MMOs if I feel up to it, other than that, that's about it.
I also really hate busy places, they make me very nervous, so I only go out to eat maybe once a month. But I do cook at home so it's not like I'm not starving, lol.
I mostly just talk to two people online, I find that's plenty for me. :p

I go out at least every other day. Getting out of the house on my own is one way I get some alone time since I have two kids at home. If I go shopping I feel alone because I just ignore everyone and focus and think. I live in a rural area so I must drive at least 10 minutes to get anywhere. This allows me to be by myself in the car a good bit too. I work on Saturdays.

2 times a weeks, I attend a language course. Apart from that i spent my time at home unless there's something necessary to do.

I work Monday thru Friday. I feel over stimulated by the time I get home. I avoid human contact other than a phone call to my mother. I'm so exhausted that I pretty much meltdown and stay in my house until I have to return to work in the morning. I operate machines and have more then I would like contact with other humans during the day. I use to be on disability but for some stupid reason, a team of doctors and therapist's thought I might benefit from working. All that did was cause me to lose my disability and make my life miserable. Bosses always complain about my lack of communication skills and my inability to understand them most of the time. They do their best to try and get me to quit but I usually don't really understand any subtle signs they might be giving. Becuase I have a disability they usually lay me off because they don't want to get in trouble for discrimination.

In the last five years I've only probably entered the outside world a handful of times. In that time not one person (even relations) has rung me or visited me. So why should I bother.
To prove I'm not exaggerating my uncle died yesterday, how do I know saw it on Facebook.
Geez I sound sorry for myself.

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Years and Years (not counting school) but in the last couple of years, I been leaving home more and more and more

I get out 2 or 3 times a week to go grocery shopping. Does that count?

Other than that, I actually get out and socialize with another human being about 1 or 2 times a month. Usually for about a 1/2 hour to 2 hours.

Polly wrote:

In the last five years I've only probably entered the outside world a handful of times. In that time not one person (even relations) has rung me or visited me. So why should I bother.
To prove I'm not exaggerating my uncle died yesterday, how do I know saw it on Facebook.
Geez I sound sorry for myself.

Can I ask you something?

As autists I know we're not exactly social butterflies, but at the same time everyone needs some sort of social contact. I found about about this one defense mechanism recently called "autistic fantasy"; it's basically where someone will immerse themselves in a fantasy existence (talking to imaginary characters, use of the internet) as a substitute for real human relationships or action. Do you use this at all? I know I use it all the time because relating to others can get exhausting.

I usually have at least one day a week where I don't go anywhere. I try not to stay indoors for two consecutive days or more unless I'm ill. As I'm not working at the moment, I only go out to buy groceries, to go shopping or if I have tickets for an event (concerts, theatre shows, exhibitions etc). The latter tends to be my main social activity even though I usually go alone but I'm surrounded by hundreds if not thousands of people at these events so I'm sharing these experiences with them despite not actually talking to anybody. Any actual social interaction I do have is normally with either my close family or the few friends that I have. Aside from having a few more friends and a girlfriend, I'm reasonably happy with this state of affairs.

Can I ask you something?

As autists I know we're not exactly social butterflies, but at the same time everyone needs some sort of social contact. I found about about this one defense mechanism recently called "autistic fantasy"; it's basically where someone will immerse themselves in a fantasy existence (talking to imaginary characters, use of the internet) as a substitute for real human relationships or action. Do you use this at all? I know I use it all the time because relating to others can get exhausting.[/quote]

When I joined here, it was the first time ive really spoke on line, ive got a Facebook account one of the kids set up, but I use it just to see what people are doing.
I don't like to post or comment ( that feels too social)
Is that called stalkin

Not going out can seriously mentally f**k with you. Going in the outside is healthier for you overall, even if it's just a 10 min walk somewhere. I used to stay in for months and all it did was give me depression, lack of motivation and made me socially anxious. These days I gym it up every day or most days and I feel way better overall.