I have autism and I was rude to an old lady

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neptunekh
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07 Mar 2017, 1:17 am

I have a disability called autiusm/aspergers and I live part time with a caretaker.
So I was with my caretaker in a grocery store and I was speaking loudly and an old lady was looking and I me. I ask her angrily if she was spying on me and my conversation. She told me I looked pretty and I said harshly she should keep her comments to herself. My caretaker was embarrassed and crossed and she took me out of the shop and took me to her car and told me to calm down. I told her off by saying the f word and she took me to walmart to shop instead. As a result my mother is quite cross and disappointed as well. But there is one good thing I did. But there is one good thing I did. A mentally sick girl said she couldn't accept texts from me anymore or perhaps anyone else and she is going through mental stuff I think. I texted her saying OK. So how did I do in both situations?



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07 Mar 2017, 1:23 am

i think there's more then a few users here that have "autiusm/aspergers".... :)

not sure why that "mentally sick" girl isn't able to receive texts from you anymore. have other people decided that you're a bad influence, or is it technical reasons? i might be able to understand both.

hopefully you and the old lady don't cross paths again. it would be awkward. :|


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07 Mar 2017, 2:30 am

You did fine in the second situation. You accepted and respected your text buddy's decision.

The first situation, not so much. From your description of the episode it seems to me that you reacted out of a feeling of your personal space being violated. So a bit of anger and a bit of fear. I think this is where the interaction went wrong. It is likely that she was just curious about you for whatever reason (old people are like that); I would have found it annoying, but when in a public place like a store it's best to be flexible about these things and to not assume bad intentions.



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07 Mar 2017, 3:33 am

You did bad in the first situation and good in the second. You were talking too loud in the first situation so it drew her attention so she looked a you. People stare when you talk too loudly. Then she gives you a compliment and you were rude to her. If you don't want people listening to your conversation, don't talk too loud. Then it was uncalled for when you told your caretaker f**k.


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