What Are Your Aspie Fears And How Many Of You Share My Own?

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1) Afraid of the future and the passing of time as it could bring bad things to my life
2) Afraid of losing my parents (as I’d be devastated and struggle to cope without them)
3) Afraid of depression/anxiety as it can almost mentally incapacitate me for a while and I’m holding back tears
4) Afraid of growing old or seeing those I know or care about grow old.
5) Afraid of rejection/failure as it makes me feel inadequate and hits my self-esteem
6) Afraid of being alone or uncared for (women aren’t supposed to love me and I struggle making new friends)
7) Afraid of obsessive or self-destructive thoughts that cause chaos in my mind
8.) Afraid of forgetting things and losing my memory (as I live for the things that were once great in my life)
9) Afraid of attractive women (as I know how my unwanted hypersexual side will perceive them and create problems for me)

I haven't been Dx so my fears might be unfounded , my biggest fear at the moment is being Dx Aspie if I'm not and vice versa , basically I want to know what's wrong me but I not sure that's a simple answer. As for sharing your fears

1) Nope
2) Nope
3) I'm living it every day so nope
4) I am old so nope
5) If I'm honest maybe a little afraid of rejection ( it's easy to avoid situations like that though )
6) I'm not single but still don't fear being alone ( crave it sometimes , so I can just let myself go )
7) Hell Yeah
I wondered why you had a dot after the eight ( it was bugging me )Nope , If I forget something it's not like I'll remember what I've forgotten
9) Nope

1) Afraid of the future and the passing of time as it could bring bad things to my life
I feel that time is passing by too quickly, and I do often worry about what's to come and what my future will hold.

2) Afraid of losing my parents (as I’d be devastated and struggle to cope without them)
Me too. My mum has cancer, and although she's in remission there is still a chance it could come back (as the doctors have said that it's 'incurable'). I am so scared of losing my mum, or any of my family.

3) Afraid of depression/anxiety as it can almost mentally incapacitate me for a while and I’m holding back tears
My emotions rule me, even though I'm on antidepressants. And most people don't understand how daunting some things are when you have anxiety.

4) Afraid of growing old or seeing those I know or care about grow old.
I suppose it's inevitable, as everything, even your own inanimate possessions, are growing old as we speak. But growing old is so gradual that you won't really notice it until way after it's happened, then by then you will probably have accepted it.

5) Afraid of rejection/failure as it makes me feel inadequate and hits my self-esteem
I'm afraid of rejection too. I was always rejected through my teenage years by friends I could of had. Now I'm anxious about getting too close to people in case they think I'm being nosy or clingy.

6) Afraid of being alone or uncared for (women aren’t supposed to love me and I struggle making new friends)
This worries me too. I do have a boyfriend but he is 20 years older than me and won't stop smoking, so I do get so anxious of him having a heart attack from smoking too much. When I try to tell him, he just says I'm going on too much about it. I don't think I could go back to single life again. I struggle at making friends too.

7) Afraid of obsessive or self-destructive thoughts that cause chaos in my mind
I am worried that if a loved one dies, I might not deal with it and it might ruin my state of mind. I'm already emotionally fragile. I have the urge to burst into tears when I'm spoken to in a confrontational tone at work. I can't help it. So a big loss in my life probably will tip me over the edge.

8.) Afraid of forgetting things and losing my memory (as I live for the things that were once great in my life)
If you mean Dementia, yes I'm afraid of that too. I work with people on the Dementia spectrum, and some of them are so frightened and confused. It must be awful to think that they are young and busy with work and family life, when in reality they are elderly and have lost their memory and other important parts of their brain and need to be cared for and locked in a care home. It is so sad.

9) Afraid of attractive women (as I know how my unwanted hypersexual side will perceive them and create problems for me)
I'm afraid of attractive women too, although not in the same way as you.
Because I don't wear make-up, I feel that women who do wear make-up judge me and I get unconfident. I do wish make-up was never invented so that women didn't have the social pressure to have to wear it.

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So I don't have those 'fears' But I already had a screwed sense of fear to begin with:
1) I'm a witness. Therefore, I appreciate whenever time passes by for the better or for worse.
2) I love my mom so much, I'd wish for her to outlive me. But whether time is involved or not, I can always let go for I feel like I already have more than a fill from her.
3) I overcame anxiety and depression few years ago. It doesn't influence my present life, whether it's the past or future. If it comes, I know what I will do with it.
4) I accepted time and death as it is. And so much, that I'm waiting to grow old and die already.
5) I lost the concept of 'worthy' and 'unworthy', the concept of 'strong' and 'weak'. I lost the desire for validation and appreciation for I already had enough of it, that I would rather be rejected or ignored.
6) I treasure solidarity above company for the former is a rare luxury in my current life.
7) I cannot fear this. Because I'm bored. And, I appreciate chaos in a way.
I already learned long time ago that forgetting is more or less of a gift.. And an annoyance. That remembering everything could hurt more. So I lost my fear of forgetting.
9) I'm a woman myself. And if people are having ideas, I'm asexual.


And because of that, I'm so bored of life.

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The only thing I'm genuinely afraid of is losing the people I care about the most. For instance, my best friend. He's been an immense help at the less happy times - more so than even my parents.

1) Afraid of the future and the passing of time as it could bring bad things to my life
Yeah, how could I not be? I see nothing good coming from more passage of time, in my life or for what I care about outside my own life (animals, environment).

2) Afraid of losing my parents (as I’d be devastated and struggle to cope without them)
Most definitely.

3) Afraid of depression/anxiety as it can almost mentally incapacitate me for a while and I’m holding back tears
No. Not prone to depression, anxiety is life long companion.

4) Afraid of growing old or seeing those I know or care about grow old.
Yes.

5) Afraid of rejection/failure as it makes me feel inadequate and hits my self-esteem
Not really.

6) Afraid of being alone or uncared for (women aren’t supposed to love me and I struggle making new friends)
Yes, but I don't need romantic love, just love, and I'm not looking for friendships. Friends are just like and no substitute for love (family, pets, partner).

7) Afraid of obsessive or self-destructive thoughts that cause chaos in my mind
No.

8.) Afraid of forgetting things and losing my memory (as I live for the things that were once great in my life)
No, my long term memory is good, so it doesn't seem likely. I kinda wish there was a new generation in my family (as in own kids or siblings' kids) to tell these memories to so important memories would go down in family history for a while.

9) Afraid of attractive women (as I know how my unwanted hypersexual side will perceive them and create problems for me)
Female here, but no, I'm not afraid of attractive people. I'm asexual and close to aromantic, and as indifferent to attractive people as I am to the unattractive ones.