Did your parents ever put you in an institution?

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Not just threaten to put you in one, but actually put you in one. My parents were always telling me now and then that if I didn't clean up my act, they would have no choice but to put me in with "kids that can't control themselves". I had no idea what I what it was I did that I needed to "clean up", but my mom claims a two year old knows better. And she'd denying it now. Whenever I "acted up" I was threatened to be sent back and my mom would make up stories about kids who basically lived there (I think these were foster kids who were abandoned by their original parents because they couldn't cope with their child's severe autism and the kids also probably had more than autism going on. Again, it could have been something my mom was just making up to scare me.)

But I think what she was pertaining to was a group home or institutional setting. This was after I had spent two weeks (it felt like years) in the psych department of the local children's hospital and I was traumatized by the experience (and my mom won't believe me about that). I thought I had been sent there for punishment. I had no idea why I was there. I was only nine but probably had the mental capacity of a six year old at the time. Nothing was explained to me. I was just dropped off there one day after a suggestion by my pediatrician (which I hated). A lot of the staff weren't exactly nice to me either.

They treated me as if everything was my fault and I had no idea what they wanted. I think they were mostly interns and students perusing degrees in social work and psychology. I was put in again at fifteen or sixteen, but I knew how to play the system and only spent a week or so there. It wasn't as bad as it was the first time but like I said, I knew how to play the system. I still have nightmares about being in the place two decades later.

I used to be threatened with a group home if I didn't "clean up my act," too.

I was about 13 years old, though.

I've never been institutionalised, but reckon it might actually have done me some good to get some dedicated help in a safe environment as a young teenager, where I went through a bout of damaging suicide attempts. Lacked a whole lot of self control but had no support other than a school counsellor.
Years later I was forcibly removed from my home after a series of events unnecessarily escalated - my parents had a strange way in the past of indicating I needed psychiatric help: they'd actually refer to mental health wards as 'loony bins': oh, that really inspired goodwill and obedience in me!
After I was 'removed', and incidentally physically injured by my dad in the process, I just spent the day there. One day against my will. I can't imagine what it would be like to have an extended stay in such places against your wishes, but I suspect I would try all the windows! Had a rather pointless evaluation regarding my depression and ended up taking the train to my then-boyfriend's flat. Came back to my parents the following morning where they proceeded to ignore me for the next few weeks.
I did eventually go to the mental health services independently, and my parents learned better tact. Bad times.

Whilst it isn't a threat as such, my father has mentioned the possibility of putting me into a home for a while.

One of his closest friend's girlfriend put her daughter into some type of rehabilitation facility, and after a year she had fully recovered. But I believe she was in her teens and didn't have an autism diagnosis.

If I were to be sectioned or homed, I would feel somewhat guilty as the fees are extortionate. In my country you have to be borderline insane to enter such a place free of charge. I guess if I really wanted to save my father the money, I could impersonate Randle McMurphy by masquerading as a 'wacko'.

For several years now since I was 13 and it's still happening. Whenever I act up, throw a fit, or argue. My grandparents always threaten me that they'll take me to a group home and a few times even drove me to the police station for me too turn myself in so I can go to the group home. But I never got out of the car. So I never got sent off. But I don't know if the cops actually would sent me off or not. But thank god I wasn't ever sent off. The lastest incident of this happening was 3 weeks ago when I got mad at multiple stuff at them and for the first time ever. I said f**k you to them. And flipped them off. And I regret it.

My mom threatened to send me to my father. And she tried to kick me out twice. But she never threatened a mental ward. That is very cruel. I'm sorry you've had to go through this. From this and some of your other posts I question the mental health of your family members. It seems like they might need some help.

Silly question.
Most parents did "school" is an institution.. go look up institution for yourself.

I was only threatened with a mental hospital once. Never an institution and I must say the threat worked because I made me stop trying to have ODD to get my way.

I was never especially caught doing anything anti-social but was repeatedly asked whether I want to hurt myself or other people. It seems that they look-over some very-needy, deserving people and offer help, where it isn't wanted -- insistently.

People were telling me that they had been subjected to things, that I shouldn't repeat, in polite company, but noone was supposed to be talking to them, about that.

I think the poster above was saying that maybe your parents don't understand your Asperger's too well.

I was threatened to be sent to one because my mother's sister had been institutionalized for schizophrenia and my mother thought I was like her.
I was a very good kid but my parents thought I was babyish and should grow up and forced me into situations where I was taken advantage of and I acted out and they thought I was bad.
So my mother said I went from one extreme to the other and said she wished I was dead than the way I was.