Do you think I'm an interloper?

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I get the impression that maybe people here think I am. I may not always phrase things perfectly to some people's tastes but that doesn't mean I'm not seeking a response to something I post.
It surely shouldn't be about wanting something to be phrased in a way you think is just right before you'll consider responding or should it?

I had hoped I might belong here but I get the impression it's just another place I don't really fit in or belong.

By the way the question mark at the end of the title indicates the need for a response.

That doesn't make sense.

Why would we think you're an interloper?

It's not like you're trying to take over anything.

I had hoped this was somewhere I fitted in but it increasingly seems like I don't.

I havent seen anyone be hostile to you. So I dont get what you're talking about.

Nobody "fits in" here.

We have to "fit" ourselves.

Exactly.

I think it's important to express what it means to "fit in."

Are you wanting people to respond more to your posts? Are you looking for a specific type of feedback when you post?

I agree with the poster that said it's best to "fit yourself." You don't need to look for approval. Only you can decide if you're okay or not; it's not up to anybody else.

I don't feel I fit in here either FM but for me it's because I don't have a Dx of ASD , I feel I am in no position to offer anyone any advice about either ND or NT issues because I have no idea where I fit. I will tag along here until I get my assessment and if I don't have ASD I see no reason for me to stay ( in the Autism section ) as this is not a social club for me , it's purely for research. Personaly I think you may be having self esteem issues as I have seen no evidence of anyone insinuating that you don't belong here. I always read your threads but sometimes having nothing to add or it doesn't apply to me.

This Site is not solely for people with autism. It's for people who have a positive interest in autism.

@SaveFerris I too am one of the undxed. I have spent a lifetime looking for something that explains me and where I can fit in. The nearest that explains things after much online research is NVLD and ASD in that order.
However coming here and being in an actual ASD community I am just not sure. Hence the feeling of being an interloper or intruder(if you prefer).

You are right about the self esteem. I am hyper aware of my social difficulties from when, as a child and especially a teenager, I was rejected and ostracised for being physically and socially awkward.

I seem to be the sort that looks from the outside at all the people inside the house but can never get indoors.

Firemonkey and SaveFarris, is this an early April Fool's joke? You're both are two of the best posters here.

I don't exactly feel like I fit in either, in the sense that I have no friends here. Still though, I feel like I belong because of ASD and many of my problems are the same. Sometimes people don't respond to my posts either. You are not alone. I have read some of the stuff you have written and I think it is valid and you have good things to say.

I don't think anyone is an interloper here.

Sometimes I think the young people here have more fun and more in common and try to socialize a little more than the older people. I am also not diagnosed. It's a different experience for us than for the younger ones who grew up knowing what they were and having therapies for it.