is anyone else here easily swayed?

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when I'm alone I hold pretty strong opinions about some things, but if I read an article from the opposing side or especially If i have a friend who feels differently than me, I can be easily swayed and sometimes I just lie and say I agree with them, just cos it feels like the easiest thing to do. I just don't know what I think about alot of stuff

That's the same as me.
I have very strong opinions but when I'm with people in person, I try to avoid as much confrontation as possible.

No...I cannot be forced to do and/or think that which I'm not prepared to do and/or think.

I live by my own "code".

Yes I can sway to avoid fights.

I stand up for my opinions.

i also have my own strong opinions about some things, but when i talk with someone (specially stranger) i'm trying to find something on his theory to agree with.

usually i tell people what they want to hear. anyway, many times there are things that i don't have any opinions about. a life is easier that way i don't need anybody to agree with me, i allow people to have their own point of view.

Last edited by tomamil on 19 May 2007, 6:41 am, edited 1 time in total.

OH MAN! This happened to me a LOT! I heard of an AS symptom that indicated something like this. CONGRATULATIONS! You described what happened with me EXACTLY!

I am not really SWAYED, it is almost like I become another person that is forced to VOICE agreement. I guess you have the same because you say..."I just lie and say I agree with them, just cos it feels like the easiest thing to do. "!

Steve

I kinda go both ways on this, but not much in the middle. I do not know why I go with people. Do I fear an adverse reaction? Do I usually consider the specific matter not worth a fight? I don5 know.

However, if principle is involved I can put up an intellectual battle. When this happens I win. Period, I leave blood on the battlefield. . .

. . .yeah. Except that for the most part, even though all have fallen to my logic, no one changes their minds! Ahhhh, of course not. They had not made up their mind by way of logic initially. It is all emotion in there. Logic now can alter nothing. And so actually do not wil at all, intractability wins!

Does that answer the "why?" above?

I'm not so much easily swayed, I still hold my opinions, but I can easily see someone else's views on something and agree that they are right... in how they view it.

The times it feels like I actually am swayed, is when I realize they are saying the exact same thing I am (takes me a bit to realize it 'cuz people like to say "no, that's not what I'm saying-THIS is what I mean), and it's just a simpler version of what I'm trying to get at ...and I am a bit naive so I'm easily swayed in areas I'm not knowledgeable about even if I do have a bit of an opinion about it.

I back down / change sides way too easily in social interactions, and it makes me furious. I've just learned to avoid situations that have that kind of potential. I get confused like that easily, and then I am easily talked in to something else.

Like when I tried to quit my job last December, they talked me in to staying even though I hated it there. So later, I just left a letter on my boss's desk saying that I resign effective immediately. I had already left when she got it, so there wasn't any room for negotiation.

I do the same thing. When I have a point of view about something, it can easily be changed whenever someone presents some logic I haven't thought of. I just think, "hmm that sounds about right, I agree."

This has happened to me a few times. It just boggles my mind, I'm thinking "how can they not see it, wtf?" Even after I've have proven it with logic and evidence. They still hold their ground and refuse to change their mind. They do not bring any new logic into the fray. They will have emotional "proof", "I know you are wrong," "That's absurd," "I have a 'gut' feeling about this" etc.

I think they argue with me becuase I'm so socially ret*d. They think I'm stupid as hell. They have an ego trip, "I'm not going to let this idiot prove me wrong." So basically they ignore all my words.

Nowadays I refuse to 'debate' with anyone. I'm too stupid.

Yeah totally. I had originally been very opinionated against premarital sex, however, the girlfriend easily swayed me

Haha, but in other matters it has happened too.

It depends upon my mood. I have a lot of strong opinions, which I'll hold to in a diplomatic sort of way most of the time. Sometimes it is, as was said, a matter of two people saying the same thing in different ways, and that can make for an interesting discussion to get to the point where we both understand it. I usually avoid conflict, though I prefer to just not voice my opinion as opposed to saying what someone else wants to hear even if I don't believe it. I've had my bad moments, though, and just rolled with the punches, so to speak, with someone with a vastly different view, complete inability/unwillingness to discuss rationally, but whose intentions I knew were good. I guess it's life.

I'm a complete push over when it comes to a good point. There tends to be good points on everyside. Now I don't know what I think about anything really.

No. I listen to reasonable arguments, but retain my basic beliefs.

I have the ability to see multiple viewpoints on an issue and I think sometimes people mistake that for being easily swayed.

More strangely, I also have the ability to hold seemingly contradictory beliefs at the same time. I'm not sure how this is possible, but I do it...