I remember everyone, but they don't remember me

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This could just be me, but I feel as though I remember everyone I've ever met. But so many people do not remember me at all. I think it has to do with me not knowing many people....but does anyone out there find it really discouraging when you see someone you recognize from your childhood, and you remember them, but they don't remember you in the slightest? I feel as if it's a bit insulting. Like, I guess I didn't make much of an impact in your life, but maybe that's a good thing. I've had the paramedic remember me even after I moved to a house about a mile away. She was like, "Oh I remember you, alright!" Because I'm difficult. But I suppose to most people, I try to not be obtrusive, so they don't remember me? What are your thoughts on this topic?

You have just very good memory for people.
There are people like you but it's not very common.
It always impresses me if someone remembers me.

Same.

I sent an email to someone I used to have on Facebook and knew from a week we spent living together when I was 18. (Platonically, as part of a retreat thing)

It was a work email - I'm a poet, he's an editor - but there was something which made me cross about the form letter he sent back. Last time we were on Facebook together was only 6 years ago.

And people online always forget I'm butch and prefer women.

It makes me feel like nobody actually cares about me.

I suppose I remember little details about people, and when I bring these little details up with said people then sometimes I'll get the reaction of "Aw! You remembered! That's so sweet!" and sometimes I'll get the reaction of, "...okay that's weird, why are you still talking to me?" and I'll continue to make creepy eye contact with them and they will get really creeped out. I think I have a problem with making too MUCH eye contact, sometimes. It's intrusive, I know...that's why I do it.

Reminds me of when I think of the kids I went to elementary school with. The only ones that seem to remember me are the ones I was friends with or the ones I went to middle school and go to high school with. If I try to follow anyone else from my elementary school on Instagram, they deny and eventually block me. Not sure if they're stuck-up or simply don't remember me because I wasn't important to them...

There's a guy on facebook that used to be my arch nemesis in elementary school. He absolutely hated me because I whooped his ass in kick ball, soccer, basketball, you name it, and I didn't even mean to be good at those sports. I hate competitive sports with a passion to this day! I was just able to hyper focus, I guess. I kinda go berserk when I get really into things.... But he doesn't remember me at all. His best friends remember me. The little kid that always wanted to sit next to me, but I thought she was too goody-two-shoes and annoying, so my friend and I would bully this poor girl mercilessly remembers me! I was seven. Give me a break.

Autistics have strong rote memory


And I do the same thing


I remember many people. They don't recognize me


They interact with a lot of people and I don't

Me too. since we don't do anything in the classroom or office or during lunch break, they don't remember us

Well I for one have prosopagnosia (=faceblindness) and can't know who's who by simply seeing their face, especially if I see them in an unexpected place. This causes a lot of trouble since people don't often believe that prosopagnosia is a real, existing condition even if I explain it to them and they get offended when I have no idea who they are... so no, I never have this problem since I'm always the one who doesn't regocnize others.

Face blindness must be really frustrating! I feel for you. My vision is very imperative to my ability to communicate with others. The more people I know, the more I think I see them when it's not actually them. I totally always stare creepily at people who I think I recognize because I'm wondering why they don't recognize me, and actually, we're complete strangers. AWKWARD!

I have the opposite problem.

I remember one time in particular at a mall a guy says hey Ezra and strarts talking about a bunch of stuff and then we go our separate ways with me thinking who was that? It finally dawned on me some time later that he was a guy from school I knew named Phillip.

I have a friend that can see someone once and them recognize them on the spot another time she sees them. I, couldn't even recognize my sister when she died her hair.

I wouldn't take it personally if I were you - my experience has been that most people have pretty bad memories. Or maybe it seems that way to me because mine can be annoyingly accurate. I can recall unimportant conversations almost word for word for very long periods of time. I'm terrible with faces, but remember people in other ways.

People are extremely surprised to find that I remember minor encounters/conversations dating years to decades back. I don't actually talk about it anymore except with close friends - for some reason, people find it weird, even unsettling, or think they made this amazing impression or you have a crush on them, which is usually not the case I wish I could tell them openly - I'm sorry, I think you're completely unremarkable, it's just how my brain works!