What does it mean to think your "better" than others.

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People keep saying that I'm quiet because I think "I'm better than others". What does that mean? Better at what, I don't understand... and what does this have to do with being quiet?

It doesn't sound to me like you really think you are better than they are. Sometimes when people are being jerks to somebody they will rationalize their own behavior by saying things like "Well that person thinks they are better than everyone else" as if that makes it ok for them to treat that person badly.

But I don't think you are doing anything wrong.

I'm making an assumption here obviously. but maybe, they just can't figure out how come you're so successful and don't tell them squat about how you did it.

Other children always said that about me in school. I don't know why. I think it has something to do with being quiet, being different and not responding the way other children do.

Maybe you seem aloof or snobbish, as though you think other people aren't worth talking to.

it seems ironic that the people saying "you think you're better than others" are the ones who think they have the right to judge you, and consequently think they're better than you.

What everyone else said. Sometimes being quiet is wrongly mistaken for being stuck up. I get this all the time, especially if I'm making some kind of overstimulated face. It must be a signal that I don't want to engage with others and they take it personally instead of understanding that there is something going on in the environment that they are unaware of.

Were you criticized often as a child? I used to think I was better than everyone but it wasn't because I had healthy self-esteem. There is a thing that happens to people who don't fit it that makes them develop a superiority complex. It begins as a defensive strategy and then develops into an Us vs. Them mentality.

Most people in the US think they are better than everyone else. Just take a drive in the city and see for yourself. I'm not sure if it happens so much in middle America as much as big cities, but narcissism is embedded in the American culture. So, if you do think you are better than others you're normal, but if you can't hide the fact that you think you're better, then that means you're not too good at being fake.

But better at what? I don’t understand.

"Better" in the sense of social status. You think you are superior and high class, and you think they are your low class inferiors. (That's what they're claiming.)

Social status claims like this are hyper-neurotypical behavior, often completely baffling to aspies. Many NTs are hyper-sensitive to real or perceived slights to their status -- it's raw primate behavior. If you really want to understand it you have to dive deep into primate social psychology I fear.

Not all Americans are that bad. I'm for one am not like that and the fact that you're accusing all of us of being that way shows that you yourself think that you are better than us.

So what does not talking have to do with social status? I’m so confused, can’t you think your superior and still be talking to the inferiors? I don’t understand.

^ In days past, upper class people would not speak to people they regarded as 'common'.
Maybe that's where the notion comes from?

Part of what's going on is: hyper-NT people see everything around them in terms of social status, so the very first thing they do when they see another person is determine where that person is in the status hierarchy (above, below, or equal to them). *Quiet* people fail to give off the correct signals that allow them to be judged, and that makes them immediate objects of suspicion. That's why you're a threat: they can't immediately identify your place (and so they suspect you are being deceptive somehow).

Suppose you're in the military. When you encounter another person the first question is: Is this person my superior or my subordinate? Then suppose someone shows up and starts interacting with your military unit, but is wearing a uniform with no rank insignia. That's *really* suspicious. Is this person a spy? Are they trying to set us up? That's what you are: the person with no rank insignia.

When a nuerotypocal decides someone is at the bottom, so they avoid talking to them?

I'm the opposite. I'm think I'm worse than alot of people.

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