Trying to get a little better every day

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In regards to improving social skills and dating prospects, in my own personal experience it does tend to give off a higher dividend of confidence the more I venture a bit more out of my comfort level. I am not fully "there" yet but since the time a couple of years ago when I felt "sick and tired of being sick and tired" and the opportunity (it DOES knock: IF you listen for it) to join a gym presented itself, I went from being suicidal and self-injurious over a traffic ticket (which I went to court prepared to challenge, and the accusing MOTORCYCLE COP never showed up) to a point where I began to notice people are genuinely interested in what I have to offer and just enjoying my company in a general sense. This past week I had the anecdotal proof in my face when I was visiting family and usually I would get a lot of passive-aggressive attitude and a lecture after a couple of days due to some of my habits and routines, but this time I got a "whatever you're doing, keep it up". In the meantime however, I've managed to shift my sense of validation and self-worth to things that please me rather than going codependent on someone I barely know, and who has NOT YET fully EARNED the privilege to know things about ME.

What I'm trying to relay to the folks who feel "nothing changes" - you are completely right; nothing changes if NOTHING CHANGES. YOU are "the prize" but you might be a sculpture that is still hidden in the block of stone, it's up to you to give the sculptor the slightest inclination of the masterpiece that lies within

Nice.

As the Japanese say, Kaizen. Or Change for the better, one step at a time. Carry on, my friend.

In my life when I use this strategy people are often impatient towards me and think I am lazy or making excuses because I can not change as fast they can. Today's "Do it yesterday" multitasking culture looks down on being deliberate.