How do I talk to NTs so they like me?

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Anyone know?

I feel overwhelmed by social interaction at all but if I go to college again or try to do something which involves interacting I'd like to if possible avoid people becoming mean towards me.

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Ask them about themselves. Most people like to talk about themselves, and will feel as if they know you better after you only listen - maybe by how you react. Then show them you listened by asking about the same things next time you see them. With luck, some of them will be interesting, and with more luck, will want to hear your story or perspective too.

This is good advice. NTs like it when you remember things about them; they take it to mean that you care, despite the fact it doesn't necessarily mean that.

You don't even really have to ask too many questions, most people volunteer select information about themselves.

For example, a woman I work with was telling me about her daughter auditioning for a part. I asked a little bit about the part, where her daughter studies etc., but I didn't have to talk very much. Next time I saw her, I asked her how the audition went (I had made a mental note to do so). She was very excited to tell me about it, as her daughter got the part, and I think she was happy that I'd remembered, too. It showed her I had listened, and gave the impression that I cared.

Without being too personal, feigning an interest in someone's life is sound advice.

Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is a good read if you have the time.

That's some good advice. I will ask people more about themselves. Besides that there's little else I can do socially. I'm not good at telling jokes or anecdotes. I do still find it difficult to know how to respond when people tell me about themselves. If I don't feel a genuine connection or like for the person I can find myself not being able to think of anything to say in response to what they tell me.

Expose yourself to the tv shows/books/movies that NT's like. Be prepared to discuss. And also, if you're a guy, sports.

Beyond that, I'd have to be there to see what you're dealing with.

Try to befriend people who share common interests as you and remember that not every single person {ASD and NT alike} will be mean towards you.