Have you been to a group where you hated the counsellor?

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Ohhh boy, when for about a year/a few months that I tried going to a youth asd/social anxiety coping group, as well as going on a few social group outings, did I hate every single counsellor.

I'm sure there are some good/likeable ones out there, it's just that I have met none of that sort.

Anyway, here's a little story.

I was in a short program (of 3 months) for young adults, and we were discussing one-on-one with a lady counsellor about the type of job we'd like to apply for.

So during my one-on-one discussion with the lady counsellor, I said that I'd like to apply for a job as a waitress, and her slow response was something along the lines of; 'Well, normally the waitresses are pretty'.

She said something like that to me, and I looked over at someone else to make sure I heard right. Yup, I heard right.

So, according to her, I had to be pretty to be a waitress, while implying that I wasn't pretty. It's not like it wasn't somewhat true at the time, I was overweight, had short/choppy hair, and wore oversized unflattering glasses that hid my face, all due to my depression and unhappiness with myself.

I've drastically (physically and emotionally) changed since back then, but she could have directed me to a different career choice, rather than just saying that and making me feel embarrassed for myself. Geez, thanks horse-face.

That was a horrible and hurtful thing to say. What a biatch. This is why I don't go to counsellors and I don't do groups of any sort. They are way too peopley. I know that's not a word but it should be

I paid for a weekend retreat, and told the intake worker that if I went into the fetal position, someone had to put a hand on my shoulder or establish some other physical contact, not just talk. There was a little delay at the start of the first day's session, so I asked if I could test my safety valve. The main therapist agreed, and then didn't move - she admitted she never read the intake notes. It went downhill from there - I didn't even return for the last day.

Sometimes I'm tempted to join one of her groups again, and randomly bring up that moment with her,

in front of everyone. :^)

I only tried out groups for about a year, and then decided it wasn't for me (or anyone, if there was a counsellor like her running the show).

I like your style

I'm sincerely asking this. What would be the purpose of doing that? It would only show her and everyone there that A) you're spiteful and B) she was able to get under your skin for years.

Somehow that seems like the worst idea to me, but I'm open to listening to the reasoning for it.

I would never really do that (no sane person would), it wasn't meant to be taken as a real idea that I've actually contemplated in doing.