Do you like being around people or alone?

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Do you like being around people or alone?

Or do you like to be alone mostly but wish you could join in easily?

Do you hate being alone and find it distressing or can mix with others for a short while and enjoy it?

Take the poll and say if you like being with others and it they are mainly NT or Aspie

hey, those questions aren't in the poll!

Nowadays i prefer being around people.
At my work i'm amongst extremely social people every day.
It's a way of life i'm starting to get used to more and more by the day.
And it actually makes me happy unlike being alone.

Around a small group of others, (though not continuously)

I was generally always alone at school, and got was quite unhappy, but am happier at uni now I've got friends, so I guess that shows I like company.

Most of my friends are NT (I think), though a few are slightly mad.
But I get bored very quickly if in a group I don't know well.

I hate being around a large group of people, especially if I don't know them. I like being either with my close friends or alone.

All my friends are NTs (as far as I know... I don't think 99.99999% of people here know about ASDs, anyway) and I mostly prefer people who have a good sense of humour and laugh a lot, or the ones who are intellectual with a lot of knowledge.

It depends--- I sometimes will want to be with people but then once I'm with them I find that I'm either bored or not happy. Sometimes if we're all discussing a topic we can all relate to then I can be quite animated and insert my opinions. But then usually the topic will change and I'm bored again. There are some close friends I have that I never feel bored around, but then they're a strange set as well so we get along well.
I can be quite happy by myself, too. There are some things that others will never understand or be as into as I am. So being by myself allows me to pursue those things.

I can understand that, I rarely go out with groups now. Its the talk about body shapes and diets that bores me and people are always talking about that.

Um it depends but I like my alone time. I see my see my friends about once every week or so. The rest of the time I spend mostly alone. I quite like it when nobody is around. I had this misconceived idea once that I was extrovert. See I had/have social anxiety, there was a time in getting better that I wanted to spend lot of time with people but that’s receded.

One thing is I can get complacent and not look after my health. I don’t always think I how long I’ve been cooped up for. I just go out when I have a good reason to go out.

Bores me, too. I know how to diet--- less calories and more exercise works well enough. The thing that bores me to death is when people start talking about their kids. I don't really care unless the kid in question is one of my neices. People will talk forever about their kids and their upcoming softball games/school trip/etc and I can feel myself falling asleep. Everyone thinks that their kid is somehow better and more important than other kids, and they'll even make fun of other kids in their kid's class!

Both. I enjoy socializing but I have little need for it. And, when I do talk to people, I may have trouble figuring out what to do or say when, and how, regardless of how willing I could be to communicate.

So it's something inbetween wanting to mix and not quite knowing how, and not minding altogether.

Last edited by ixochiyo_yohuallan on 24 May 2007, 5:50 am, edited 1 time in total.

I enjoy socializing, but it's a heavy mental burden and effort. I literally get physically and mentally tired after an extended period of social interaction.

I dont mind being around people to a degree, its like a necessary evil when I have to be around them. I do prefer my own company.

I prefer being alone, but I need to be around others sometimes.

When I'm with friends, I enjoy being with them, but I find it exhausting because I'm always thinking, and guaging, and watching. I have to remember to ask questions (I get intent on listening, and I forget to start thinking of things to ask while the person is talking, instead of taking a long pause to absorb the information, think of what else I would like to know, and ask it), and I have to make sure I don't seem disinterested.

Sometimes I try too hard, and it's obvious. Then I get too loud, talk too much, and start pushing "activities," on people.

When people leave I'm never sure if it's because I've done something wrong, or if it's because they genuinely have someplace else to go. It's usually the latter, but I've had the former happen, and no one will ever say.

When people aren't around very often, or not part of my regular day, I forget to contact them. When I do remember them, I have to think of what to say before I start talking to them. The longer I go without contacting someone, the harder it is to do because I'm not sure what to say, or ask.

So, I enjoy the company of other people. I don't like being completely alone, but being with others requires a fair bit of effort on my part, so I don't to it terribly often even though I enjoy it most of the time. Sometimes, if there's too much social strain to the situation, I end up feeling down about it afterwards.

I also appreciate my alone time. I need a lot of it. I find it easy to keep myself occupied, and it's a lot less draining than being around others because I'm not worried about offending myself.

I prefer to be alone almost always.

We are all alone here and we are dead.

-- Henry Miller

My instinct is to want to be alone, but it makes me depressed to stay at home too many days in a row. I become too introspective and tend to focus on negatives. It's a good thing I have kids. Otherwise, I'd have almost no reason to socialize. With their busy schedules, there's always somewhere for me to be, several days a week. It doesn't mean it's easy for me. I have to force myself, each and every time I go somewhere. By the end of the week, I'm completely exhausted and can't wait for Sunday, the one day I usually don't have commitments. My husband, who's been working all week, can't understand how I could be so tired, since I've done nothing all week. How can you explain to NT's that socializing, for us, is like running a marathon?