I do better in conversation if it's online

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Does anyone else feel this way? I have a really hard time keeping up in conversation if it's people speaking in a group, so I don't normally talk much, but I seem to do much better if it's in online chat (like with coworkers, or even one-on-one in facebook messenger with a friend). Is it maybe because I type faster than most people so I can finally get my thoughts out before they do? Ha.

I tend to do better in the written medium than the spoken medium.

But the gap has narrowed over the years.

I cant talk in groups whether its in person or online. I cant follow the conversations, never know when its my turn to speak and just generally shut down. 1on1 conversations are easier online but if I know the person than coversations in person aren't bad either. I hate phone conversations though and restrict phone calls to booking appointments, requesting specific information etc rather than socializing.

I'm capable of having verbal conversations because I learned to do so but they're uncomfortable and exhausting, especially when coupled with eye contact. I hate being expected to respond immediately. I also don't know when to speak and I have a hard time interpreting social cues or things that aren't socially acceptable. The way I can express myself through writing is something I will never master verbally but I do work at it.

The phone is the same for me - I never know when it's my turn to speak. I call my grandparents every week because I was told to by my parents, and I really wish I didn't have to. Not because I don't love them or want to know how their doing. I just hate phone calls.

I'm the same way. I have trouble with conversations in person, especially because I feel like I am expected to respond quickly, while online or through texting, I can take a moment to think about what I want to say before saying it.

Yes because listening is tiring and I don't get anxious about my physical demeanor (such as maintaining eye contact) online.

I am indeed. Online, i can read back to what whas said, and take my time fomulating what i want to say, with the delay being blamed on typing speed.

In addition, my difficulties in reading non-verbal cues is a non-issue online, since these cues don't exist online.

Yes, I often am more comfortable communicating online, including text messages. In fact, I unfortunately have sometimes come on too strong to people while communicating electronically. My relationships with two friends have actually been strained because I came on too strong to them in electronic communications. One of them was a new friend who didn't understand my Asperger's and how it affects my behavior. And the fact that we didn't know each other very well made my coming on strong to him an even worse problem.

Same as well! It happens to be a better way to communicate for me because I don't see the persons facial expressions. I see facial expressions as uncomfortable. Chatting online helps me think more about what i'm going to tell them also.
AND another reason might be because we are in a world full of technology now! It's the best way to get a faster response from someone.

I'm extremely more comfortable online. I say well more than I could even hope to say in person.

I'm able to better form my thoughts online because there isn't so much expectancy of an immediate reply, so I can think about what I'm going to say.

It doesn't always stop me from saying something stupid or inappropriate, however, but I guess it lowers the chances.

Times I tend to babble online, saying more than is necessary.

I'm more confident online.