Difficulty choosing favorites

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Anyone experience trouble when choosing favorites or making simple choices?
Such things as what do you want for lunch nearly always results in me saying I dunno. Every once in a while I have a strong craving for something, but otherwise I don't really have any preference.
Someone asking what I liked about a book or movie always leaves me thinking. I liked it, but what parts about it did I especially like? It takes me forever to come up with an answer.
Asking me my favorite food can grind me to a halt as I try and compare how I feel about each food that I like and attempt to rank them against each other.

I feel so weird when I can't decide what my favorite of something is.

lol I am like that. I can never decide what to eat if I have to find food myself. I just walk aimlessly round the kitchen for ages and then pick up some chocolate or a cake or something.
Big decisions are even harder though. It was hell trying to decide which units to take on my course next year. I wanted to take the Soviet one really badly as well as the ones I'm already taking. And an anti-semitism one to go with my Nazis. And there was also a medieval one I would have liked, but that wouldn't have fit in well with the rest anyway as mine are mostly mdoern history. Decisions are a pain in the ass though.

Absolutely - my inability to choose anything drives my family nuts, especially when it comes to meals. Oh boy, if we're eating out, that's even worse. I now have to go to the same restaurants and order the same things, just so I can make a decision.

Oh yeah, that's me. When it comes to decisions, I either know the answer immediately, no thinking required, or I can never figure out/decide.

Haha, just yesterday, my colleague asked me if I prefered blue pens or black pens (because she was ordering supplies), and I started thinking about how I usually like black pens because they look more professional, but blue pens are good for paperwork that you make copies of so you can easily tell the originals apart from the copies, but I wasn't sure how many copies I would be making of paperwork, so maybe I should go with the black pens anyways, but I should probably have some blue pens around just in case I do make copies.

She finally just asked if I wanted both, which resolved the situation. I had never thought of that option when she gave me the choice between black and blue.

man, this is amazing, i am here few days already and still getting amazed. you guys live my life! it's like i discovered a bunch of people who live the same life as me just under different circumstances. i'm so happy to know this site and you all here thanks

i had a good friend once, when we went to eat something, i never knew what i want, so usually i took the same dish as he did. eventually, he got upset about it, so i started choosing something else, just to keep peace between us. but i didn't really care. it was just more convenient to be in the same queue.

Heh, everyone in my family is like that, except my sister. We would usually start discussing supper plans before luch just to come to a consensus.

Alays a problem in my relationship.

We are both like this...what do you feel like eating,I dont know,what do you feel like eating,I dont know....aaaarrrrgggg.I am much better at saying..."not that" then coming up with hat I DO want,so he will throw out things he might like and I will chose by eliminating what I dont want.Yes,this drives most people nuts.

Other times there is only one thing that is the right answer but I dont know it until I hear the choices.

Oh my gosh! Is this AS related too? I can't make decisions, big or little, unless I'm deciding between two really obvious choices (would you rather eat a chocolate cake, or get punched in the face )

I drive my mom nuts because she's be picking up food from somewhere, and ask me what I want. I almost always say I don't know. I do that with most everything.

I don't have a hard time with favorites though-I know if I like something, and I know more or less why.

My mom brought it up to the person she met with last Friday (who at least is familiar with people with AS). That person seemed to take it as that I wasn't being assertive-but it's not that at all. I just can't decide. It gets upsetting to me, especially if I keep getting asked, because I'll just say "I already said, I don't know!" Because...I don't know.

I've been told by lots of different people to quit saying I don't know.

Yes, I'm definitely like this too. I have a difficult time with those questionnairres where they ask your favorite restaurant, favorite salad dressing, favorite color, etc. I was on a book club email list that liked to send those. The first time I filled one out, my answers were about five times as long as everyone else's. I answered that I liked a certain color best for clothes, another color for cars, still another color for a room. It was the same with all my other answers. I was embarrassed after I saw the other responses and realized that we were supposed to keep the answers short and sweet.

I have this problem too, with both 'minor' issues and major issues. And I can agonise over food choice for hours and over big scary life-changing decisions for MONTHS - and I really do mean 'agonise'!

Yeah, I can too. I'm usually not that bad (at least with food choices), but it has happened.

Yes, I'm not the most decisive person. Everyday my mom will ask me what I want to eat. I don't know. I never know what I feel like having.

I'm kind of that way with favorites too. I have my favorite movies, but there are many of them. There really are too many to pick one favorite. With foods it's pretty easy to pick out which are my favorites because I'm such a picky eater, so there are only a few.

I still have no idea what I want to do for a career after college either.

I have this problem in some ways, if someone asks me what movie etc i would like to watch i always say i do not mind. However if they went out to make a drink or something i would be able to pick one to watch.
I think I just do not like the pressure of having to choose anything when is not just for me.
Food is not a prob to choose, i will pick the crunchest food that contains the most cheese everytime.

Sometimes there just is'nt clear answer, I hate that, I find many decisions very hard. I.e what to eat, which trainers to buy, which pen etc

I have this problem, especially with food / drink. If somebody asks me I cannot make a decission and end up getting stressed about it.

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