What specific things can people get out of friendships?

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What things can people get out of a friendship, apart from the friendship itself? Especially things that you can get only out of a friendship, and not out of anything else? Very generic things like "feeling good" don't count here, because almost everything what people do in life, they do to feel good (people generally prefer to feel good all the time, or most of the time). Feeling good is something people want to get in general, out of life - it is not anything specific to friendships.

Enjoyable companionship. Free activity partners. People to call on to provide help in personal situations. Connection to networks of other friends which may provide romantic partners, job opportunities, etc.

A deep, mutual understanding of each other. Good friends accept and enjoy each other's company, faults and all.

Interaction with people who share an interest, good conversation and new ideas that will help you improve yourself

I'd say the biggest thing for me, is the level of acceptance that a close friendship can offer. I'm a pretty bizarre person, and feel like I've had to train myself to function socially. It's amazing when I can finally take off the BS mask that I wear around most 'acquaintances' and be the socially inept dork that I truly am. I know that you discounted "feeling good" as an answer, but I think this goes a little beyond that- it's feeling like you truly have a place in the world, even if it's small and confined to the company of one other person. A true friend will care for you, give you genuine advice, and possibly put your needs above their own if you're in crisis.

Short answer- you gain the privilege of not feeling like a shipwrecked alien whenever you're with them.