When and How should I Fight Back?

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I have many problems when it comes to bullying, but two of them specifically are when I need to insult and what kind it needs to be to stop their bombardment, and how serious I should be. Should I laugh and make a funny self depreciating comment or go all out on them with insults of their gender, race, call them disgusting degenerated creatures or whatever. (I'm not a racist, so I really dislike using these kinds of things against people, but it seems to work because that's what people are most conscious about). Oh, and I have empathy, unlike a lot of people who are my age, so I feel bad when I insult people, but I want and need to liberate myself from their "colonization".

So here's the scenario. I'm stuck next to these people on a daily basis, and moving away isn't an option as I would have to move away from anyone (People naturally hate me, it's just a quality), so everywhere I go I'm insulted and belittled. I want to fight back and give myself freedom and choice, but I'm not sure how to do that. When I get in confrontations I lose control over my muscles and I become twitchy, my mouth sags down like I'm making a frown, and my eyes become red and watery. I know it's a crying mechanism but it's physical so I'm usually not aware of it but it's pointed out. I also swallow and sometimes tears come out but I'm usually not aware of it, I usually think the tears are caused by something in my eye then I realize it was from an insult. This is unrelated to the AS I think, but it could be a side effect of AS.

So what should I do? How do I stop the bullying and power displays. I don't like being put at the bottom, it is a relinquishment of my freedom and it's against the founding of the principles of the US. We all have freedoms, so how do I gain mine? I'm tired of being forcefully lodged into the base of the social pyramid, and I want to stand up and place the bullies down where they should be in accordance to proper moral standing. How do I approach this? I don't want to run from it anymore, because it will, and does, keep reappearing.

By either insulting them back, or punching them. This isn't 7th grade, self deprecating jokes aren't going to make them laugh.

I can't even tell if they're joking or not.

And they are allowed to punch me but if I even raise my hand above them without touching them I get expelled. Just the system I guess...

It's a long time since I had to deal with bullies but the most efficient method I found was ignoring them and feeling superior. Insulting back only escalated the thing and punching usually ended with troubles. But when I knew that THEY are wrong it became quite easy to ignore them. Then they didn't have fun - what's funny about being ignored? - and finally stopped.

The other way I love to use is specially efficient against ironic comments: simply ignore the irony. Last time I was teaching students while wearing my favorite home slippers. 'Nice slippers' - shouted one of them. 'I totally agree, for the first time I saw them on a shelf of a supermarket I fell in love with them and then I knew they must be mine ' - I replied enthusiastically. I knew it was irony but simply ignored it. None of the students have ever since dared to comment my look

If someone is punching you that is assault and I would suggest reporting it to the authorities. Sounds like a restraining order may be needed if you are in frequent contact with these people. Kind regards. Shark

It would be wrong to insult anyone on account of their gender for many reasons.