Do you aspies do this/feel like this?

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Dear fellow Aspies,

Is it just me or do you Aspies do the same?

lately I have been feeling spaced out and have been stimming (rocking side to side when standing and back and forth while sitting. I also clap or walk around the room frantically). It seems to calm me alot. But I do this in front of people and dont realise. How can I stop it?
I get agitated at sudden movements and dont like sounds that I cannot control. I get very irritated easily and can lead to a meltdown. It is annoying and not fair on my husband. I have had therapy alot and counciling but still no help, as when people talk to me I tend to drift off and space out alot. I keep repeating myself and not that good with eye contact. I get overwhemed by anything and see people and things as annoying, especially when I am in the middle of listening to music or working I tend to get very snappy. I trying sooo hard to not get irritated but it is VERY hard. I seem to tolerate things much better when I drink alcohol, without it I am highly irritated and lose interest in people and things. Please what can I do to stop this, is interfering with my everyday life. I tend to lash out sometimes during my meltdowns. I am 29 year old female. My husband says I am abit like Sheldon Cooper (big bang theory). But I don't think so.

I have not been diagnosed yet, but I feel like I could be an aspie too. I thought this behaviour was Borderline personality disorder but getting told it is maybe Aspergers. I wish I could be diagnosed with whatever the heck I am (Hate labels) so I can just no how to work and deal with things better. Please help me!! !! !

I'm only just diagnosed myself and hardly an expert but it sounds possible to me. I think it would be worth it for you to look into getting assessed, anyway.
Pretty sure there are a few good ASD specialists in Queensland.

Just posted this reply in your other thread "Should I Go for an Evaluation":


Two reasons to go for an evaluation:

1) It's cathartic to finally understand your place in the world, and begin to see why things have always happened to you the way they have. It's freeing to know that, contrary to what people may have always led you to believe, there is not something fundamentally wrong with your personality, there's just something miswired in your brain, and that is NOT YOUR FAULT. This knowledge also gives you some insight into how you may develop coping mechanisms to improve social skills, et. al, however, don't get your hopes up that it will transform you into the social butterfly you never were before, 'cause it won't.

2) I can only speak for the USA, but I'm guessing Australia has very similar programs, and having an official diagnosis may very likely qualify you for various social programs, including disability benefits. You may not think as a 20something that you have a particular need for such assistance, but in my experience, autistic functionality can vary with age, so it could come very much in handy later. You might not even qualify for certain assistance programs until after such-and-such an age, so why not be prepared?

Some worry that having an official label might make one a target for discrimination, but again, in my personal experience, people will always discriminate against the autistic, simply for being different, even when they can't name specifically what that difference is. And there's nothing I'm aware of that forces you to disclose that diagnosis with anyone you don't wish to share it with.

I'm ASD and have most of the same things that you mentioned in your post. Besides the drinking alcohol part. Because ew gross! And I'm underage anyways. But yes these are normal symptoms for people on the spectrum.

What you are describing is pretty typical common autistic behavior. In other words it's normal for a person with autism to behave that way and have those experiences. From an autism point of view there's nothing unusual about it.

Spacing out and stimming are ways of reacting to being overwhelmed. Aspies tend to be overwhelmed by sensory overload and multitasking, the stresses of trying to "fit in" etc.

Have you had added stress or a significant change in your life recently?

Thank you for replying.
Yes, my work schedule changed 2 weeks ago and I had a big meltdown. But it didn't help as I had alot of alcohol that day. But I don't like changes when it is out of my control. Now I been spacing out while talking, repetitive hand movements (clapping) and moving body side to side alot more than usual. My other stims are walking around house frantically and saying "mum" or "mummy" alot epecially highly overwhelmed. I also have anxiety.