Does it seem like people never understand what you are sayin

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That should be "saying" in the title. I'm very careful about the words I use and people still don't seem to understand my posts. They also don't seem to understand the implications of what they are saying; when I point out the implications, they say "I didn't say that."

For example, someone said "being X comes with a lot of dysphoria." I said that there's no inherent connection between being X and having dysphoria. The person then gave me a bunch of individual examples of people who are X having dysphoria, but individual examples don't prove an inherent connection.

Does it seem like lots of people are not good at verbal communication, yet they mysteriously still make social connections? I don't understand how they connect with each other when a good chunk of what they are saying is hardly sensible.

So this was a verbal conversation? Perhaps the pace of that is faster, so it's easier to make mistakes? Not have time to consider the implications of statements before they're made?
Maybe a lot of individual examples don't prove an inherent connection, but instead a strong trend? A tendency for dysphoria, in the example, within a certain group?
It's hard to know without context.
Maybe social connections don't rely on careful words. Most people talk crap anyway.

It's a difficult question for me to answer as the person who I have the most misunderstandings with is my GF and like me there's a high chance that she might have ASD.
When there is a misunderstanding it's impossible to tell where it arises from - either it's me not getting across my point in a calm and civil way or my GF being defensive about whats being said or vice versa ( simplistic explanation ).

It's been really difficult for me to find out what is ASD and what's not due to my GF probably having it too e.g. I'd tell my GF a problem I'm having and she'd say it's normal as it happens to her too , years later I find out it's an ASD trait.

That happens to me, too, with some frequency.

It's because I don't articulate well sometimes. Or I don't see that others might not get the immediate context which caused me to say a particular thing.

Yes, normal people don't have to say words precisely. They use commonly used words and phrases so that if a little bit gets garbled, the person hearing them "autofills" with what they expect to hear. Since both participants think similarly, they usually get the right message. I believe body language is used to convey times in which negative connotation is desired. In other words, they say something and mean the exact opposite.