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Has anyone else found no matter how well you think you do something or no matter how hard you try, it still isnt up to par and therefore its not appreciated. How do you learn to give yourself credit and not beat yourself up for everything you do. Also how can you try to keep from getting nervous in social situations?

Ask any NT or AS person if they feel appreciated and they probably don't either. As for being nervous all you need to do is remember that everyone else is pathetic and their judgment is clouded by silly things called emotions and therefore you need not concern yourself with their opinion.

I don't know how to keep myself from getting nervous in social situations. I took Prozac for a while and that worked.
I just avoid social situations like parties etc. And if I go somewhere else now, I find it helps to have been there before, with family or something. So I know where I'll be when I get there. That tends to make me less likely to panic. As for conversation etc, the only thing I can think of that might help is practice.

There are days that I don't feel appreciated, but I pick myself up and dust myself off. Than I start each day on a new slate.

sometimes people don't appreciate the others just because of their own issues. many people downplay the others in order to put them on their lower level, so they don't have to feel bad about being so low.
in social situations, or even when speaking in public (my work requires it from time to time), it helps to force a little smile. it's not just that you will feel better with smile on your face, but also people will accept you more easily. people like to see somebody positive

I find it hard not to see all the mistakes in everything I do but then I think of all I have gone through to get here and how hard it has been and can feel proud of myself. I am much more forgiving to others than I am to myself.
I don't do social situations other than directly related to work so I can talk about work. However a good tip I was given is to have a set of questions to ask another person so they will talk about themselves and then just try to look very interested.

Re social situations:

Most people are so engrossed in themselves that they don't notice as much as you think they do about you.

Most people are so worried about how they come across, and are not so much worried about others.

And if they are being judgemental ....

Smelena

Regarding people who don't appreciate when you have made a genuine effort, that would suggest that they are the ones with the problem, not you!

i never care about what people think of me. the less you worry about what others think of you the better your life is i think.

I feel the same way, and I do not like it!

When I'm depresses yes but usually no I feel very appreicative

I used to have this issue at most of my jobs. You'd go above and beyond the call of duty and you'd be lucky to get a thank you but as soon as you do something wrong they're onto you like a seagull on a hot chip.

I used to say, why not offer a little praise here and there, surely it would be good for morale ? But no, the motto was "if we don't say anything then you're not stuffing up".

What a strange way to operate