jijin wrote:
SteveK wrote:
Things I have done were things I now regret. I stopped asking why so much, hold back advice, even to everyones detriment, don't so quickly make observations. That helped to remove a lot of the knowitall, rude, arrogant appearance. I try to delay asking some questions, to better parse things, etc... Part of my isolation was because of misunderstandings, etc... I got more cynical to overcome some gullibility.
I seem to do that, as far as making quick observations though. My problem is that they tend to be correct, and by "tend" I mean nearly always. So I have come to rely on that and almost to the exclusion of caring weather a person close to me feels as if I'm being rude.
Making remarkable snap judgments is the only thing I find that I excel profusely in, and it has become a part of my personality. Although I have adapted to keep in my true feelings about a given thing and give answers I know are telling people what they want to hear. I know this is also considered bad but I'm scared to dull my judgment at all due to my work.
Maybe I'm just an @##hole.
YOU MISUNDERSTOOD! MY observations were always correct ALSO! They STILL usually are! But people never wanted to listen. ESPECIALLY not when they were 30+, and I wasn't even 10! And when I said "even to everyones detriment", I meant that people have destroyed equipment, and spent weeks or months because I kept quiet.
If I say anything though, they may just consider me a knowitall, etc.... That IS less of a concern now, but OTHERS want to try their hand at it. Of course THEY usually go off half cocked. One held meetings for over a month refining his stupid theories on a false premise. ACTUALLY, TWO false premises. The main one, however, meant that no valid attempt could be made to impliment it.
Steve
Steve
27 May 2007, 6:39 pm
