I wonder if we'd hate each other.....

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Sitting here buzzing about on several glasses of cheap Chardonnay, I wonder. If all the Aspie's on this board were brought together. Brought together for some social get together. I cannot help but wonder how we'd fare with one another. Not surprisingly there seem to be a great many intelligent people roving around this forum. But when you meet someone in person that you've talked to awhile online you're almost always surprised. Surprised by just how different this personality standing before you seems from the one you imagined. I try to imagine what it would be like if we all met somewhere. Would knowing each person shares your difficulty make socialization easier. Seems it would. Yet I still wonder.

Well...you've seen my thoughts, you've seen my face and you haven't heard me talk verbally....

I see no problem with knowing me in person.

I wouldn't hate anyone.

Tim

I got a friend who I am sure has AS and he can really annoy the ever loving S^&*@# out of people with his constant complaining. It's like a staple gun unloading into your eyeballs. But thats just him...

I'm AS positive and most people don't find me to be annoying.

I try my best to never judge anyone on any level either. If only because of past experiences, I know what it's like to be excluded or looked down upon. And I also learned through this humility that everyone deserves a fair trial.

It pisses me off beyond belief how, it seems, you gotta prove yourself to someone in the first fifteen minutes or be thrown off the social cliff. I'm a good guy. I'd buy me a Coke. But I often fail that first fifteen minutes. When they are trapped into having to get to know me for any length of time I generally make friends out of them. Ironically, most of the people I've had as close friends were people I didn't much care for at the start. Long story, that.

If we met would there be any converstion at all

Last time I made friends they were mostly nerds, geeks and one tough-guy/biker/occultist.

It often takes time for me to separate a new face from "the much-too-many". But once you've made an impression, it should be fine unless you seem too ignorant for my tastes.

I spent about an hour with two people on the spectrum. They are both fairly high functioning. The one stated that he had "a form of autism" but didn't specify. The other didn't say anything about it, but there's no way she doesn't have it.

That was a very long hour. We didn't have a clue what to talk about, and nobody really talked much at all. It was pretty sad. Mostly just a whole bunch of disconnected comments.

I don't really dislike them, but it's impossible to talk to them, between them and me. Somebody's got to talk, and nobody was.

I don't know!

If the people in question had cats, I would probably be spending my time petting them.

I would be alright with everyone i think.

I think we would tend to create usual groups, as the NT ones, although not exactly. Anyway some of us would behave as very social, some other social, other less social...

it will be interesting when many of us starting meeting at big groups, I really expect that some of us will behave as very social. In fact I believe I did it before.

By the other side we will feel as we do usually, hate or loving the way we use to do.

id only really talk if there was beer. probably, unless i found someone who had the same intrests as me

My Individual Education Plan once forced me into a school-tied lunch group for people with Asperger's Syndrome.
I hated it. I only liked two of the people there and the rest were either delusional, had emotional issues, or just seriously disturbed in some other way.
These issues caused me to not like them much.
So I asked my guidance counselor if I could revise my IEP, and ended up being successful in the endeavour.
So it all ended happily.

I have never actualy met a person with a daignoses of AS but I've met people who could have it.

There's a teenager (fourteen ish?) who hangs around town and is SUPER friendly to everybody it's scary. I worry about him because he knows no boundries and some pervent could take advantage of that. He has a sorta high picthed voice and it's tone never changes. He used to bring a boom box along with him and crank out 50's music everywhere he went. 1950's music seems to be his "special intrest" but he dosen't drive it into the ground like I do zoology. Yes I find him VERY annoying even without the boom box.


There's also this boy my parents have known since he was a toddler. His mother probably had ADHD and couldn't take care of him so his grandparents took over. Which was probably a bad thing because they were the "spare the rod spoil the child" type people. Yes, they did beat him with a paddle when he acted up. After Pokemon came out he became majorly obsessed with that. His grandparents were overly religious and it kinda surprizes me that they allowed it. I never liked him very much. But then maybe it was because he had a submissive personalty.

I never really did think I would get along with other AS people. My mom swears I would if I could just meet someone who was intrested in the same things as I am. But no one is intrested in the same things I am in the same WAY that I am. Asperger's people seem to have a "my way or the highyway" mindset and only want to do THEIR things. So I think it would be pretty hard to get along with them.

I think shared interests would be a key thing for getting along with other AS folks. Certainly it goes without saying that NT's would have a better chance under similar conditions. But since we can be so focused on something and actually meet another that shares that obsession. Well, I guess it go either way if opinions differed. Blah, I'm just stating the obvious aren't I? Oh well.