Does anyone else enjoy.....

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....buying things for others?

I hope it's not an underlying indication of my desire to be liked and accepted by other people.

I do like giving gifts actually. Mainly to people who like and accept me anyways. I'm pretty nonchalant about it as with most things.

Sure, but it's not something I do actively. And when I do, it's usually either a video game or a music album - for those of my friends who enjoy either of those things.

If it is something specific that I know somebody likes or needs, yes, I enjoy it very much.

I prefer making things for others instead of buying it. Then make it a bit personal.. Make it a bit special for them..
I almost never buy for anyone, but I'll do it if there's a good reason for it.


.. But then again, I have to buy raw materials for things I make... Would that count?

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I also like to buy things for others. I especially like doing it around Christmastime. I like to buy my immediate family members things for Christmas and I expect nothing in return.

I likebuying stuff for my niecies and nephiwes and other relatives.

I used to really like giving random gifts when I was younger and had more money to throw around. If I saw something I thought someone would like, I'd just buy it for them. I think it's a trait I picked up from my maternal grandmother who liked spoiling me and often bought me random things. These days I can't really afford to do that and I have to save things for holidays/birthdays. I'm also starting to find gift giving to be stressful, just because as the years go on I'm running out of ideas for what to get my family and I don't feel I really know them as well as I used to. It also kind of sucks when you get someone something and you know they never use it because you live with them.

Of course I've been on the other side of that and have had people get me things that I had no interest in and have never used and then there is disappointment there and wondering why they didn't know me better. Usually I can just kind of let it go and know it's the thought that counts, but one time my mother insisted on buying something that my sister told her I definitely wouldn't like and I was just like "WHY?"

Though for some reason, while I generally enjoy giving gifts, I really don't like receiving them that much. It's a separate issue from getting gifts I don't like. Even if I get something I really like, even if I'm happy about it in the moment, I just get really depressed about it afterwards. I'm not sure if it's because I feel like I don't deserve it, or maybe I'm just overwhelmed. This has been an issue since I was a little kid though. I have a very distinct memory of throwing a temper tantrum on my birthday one year because of all the checks I got in the mail from relatives. I said I didn't want it and demanded that my mother give it to charity. She refused and just put it in my bank account. I'm not sure if I hated my birthday at that age, but I know I started to really hate it around age 16. I dread it every year and get extremely depressed. The only gift I want these days is to not have my birthday acknowledged. My family doesn't seem capable of that though. This year they just waited until the next day to give me stuff, and while I appreciated them trying to honor my wishes, I think they just completely missed the point.