Has anyone had a bad experience that has made them self conscious in social situations? I had a very bad experience with a boss/job. I was called cold, aloof and told I hated or didn't care about a coworker and the students there. I would walk by people without saying hi simply because I was deep in thought/day dreaming and I didn't really think to. When I made a point to do so, it and small talk was often ackward for me. I am task oriented and would walk up to people and get straight to the point often without much of any pleasantries. One of my student leaders cried during our first meeting together because I got excited about the possibilities and suggested ideas and things we could improve. She felt like I cared more about that than getting to know her. My boss was manipulating me and blowing much of it out of portion. There was also a history of dysfunction there that complicated things as well. So, it's hard for me to figure out what's them and what role I played.
Now, I make a point to be more engaged as I've become aware of how it could appear. But, on the negative side I am afraid that if I'm not, and I sit alone at a get together for instance, that I'll have a similar experience and be seen as a cold person and attacked.
03 Jul 2017, 11:05 pm
