People who just pity you

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Okay so I don't mean to offend/upset anybody through this post but here's a quick question for today (& I apologize if I offended/upset-ed anybody). Now here's my question.


If someone new (or more people) met you online or in person, would you assume that person or more people just pity you with no empathy & they aren't really your friend(s)? And if you had people that pity you, blackmailed you, manipulated you, bullied you, etc. Would you rather be a solitaire person for the rest of your life or try to find someone who is emphatic & not a liar?


First off for anyone who wonders why I'm asking....some autistic person made a journal post called "Autism Lessons in "Zootopia" (link will be in this post), & second off it could be true that some people on the autism spectrum may not have "true" friends like normal people......probably just people who pity you. I've had some people pity me in high school, & obviously some people that didn't seem trustworthy (except for a few people I hung out with on my junior year & a few on my senior year), because you think that some people from high school or college or maybe even from your work (if you have a job that is) might find you & add you on facebook, instagram, etc. But really I just think people from high school or from college or from work wouldn't really care about socializing/hanging out with you because of disability, your interests, & perhaps how you look (like if you had weight problems, or something....no offense).


Now sure you could easily find someone you remember from high school or somewhere else you remember them from & add them on facebook or any other social network site.....but I kinda don't think its necessary because I just think its probably a little creepy or something, sometimes I think its best to be a solitaire person because I've annoyed some people both online & in real life. Because actions speak louder than words & when you say something dumb in a couple or more annoying posts.....you're probably not gonna have more people socializing with you, & surely for people with autism (other than myself) it can be simple to tell that the other person (whether disabled or not) is annoyed with you in text or in person & maybe you said/did some things you shouldn't have said/did (because I did that a lot which was idiotic of me). I'm trying to be careful of my actions & I'm currently waiting for my job interview for janitorial work (because its a nighttime job with no people around) but I doubt the place is gonna hire me...& its probably because of disability.


My least hope for meeting someone new (& hopefully not just people who pity others) is signing up for a website called "Disabled Mate Autism" to maybe get a friend or two, but then again when people have autism I would assume some autistics would get nowhere with finding true & honest people, & I'm not talking about for dates I mean just find really good honest friends....that's it. Then again that's probably not gonna be a thing for people like me if people just pity me (that's one of the reasons why I signed up for wrongplanet, to meet new people to be friends with who just don't pity each other)....its probably best to just give up, then again I honestly don't know anymore.


Anywho that's all I have.....again I apologize if I upset-ed/offended anyone, & I apologize if this post was annoying, ludicrous, etc (if it was offensive or annoying I'll delete it). But thank you for reading & until then have a good day.



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I usually think that people either feel sorry for me or have some kind of ulterior motive. I sometimes try to think this way on purpose because it can help me stay distant from people who are manipulative. I think it also makes me feel less disappointed when I assume that they don't genuinely like me.

I remember the last couple of years I was in high school it felt like people either felt sorry for me or targeted me. It made me feel like it would just be better to be alone. I feel like it's worth it now though to look for people. I think it's good to try and find people who are empathetic and relatable.

I hate for people to feel sorry for me.

I rarely feel sorry for anybody.

If a woman can't celebrate Christmas because a judge sent her to jail for not doing community service, I'd feel sorry for the woman.

I'd ask people outright, "Am I a really close friend of yours or just an acquaintance?" If they truly are a close friend, they won't mind you asking them, and if they are not and mind, it's their loss.