Were you excluded from private schools?

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Like most of you in here, I have Asperger's/ASD after being diagnosed with PDD-NOS in 1993. I had wanted to know if any of you were excluded or rather it was not a privilege to attend a private school due to your diagnosis. I had wanted to hear your stories.

In 1993, my mother was offered a position at a private daycare in a church that also had a k-8 day school and because my mother worked there, her children could go to school there for free. When my mother was in the process of getting my sister and I enrolled, they let me sister in but they refused to accept me. Why? They didn't have any accommodations available for me. So I had to attend the regular public school system with an IEP and a school system that beat my parents down and brainwashed them into thinking that I was broken. Yet, this principle accepted others with different "Disabilities."

How many of you went through similar experiences?

I went to a private school in grade 7 and 8 but that was BEFORE I was diagnosed. Would they have accepted me? I don't know. But it's horrible the system brainwashed your parents into thinking you were broken. I flunked math in grade 8 and my dad couldn't pay the tuition anyway so I went to public schools after that. I had some really discriminatory crap said about and to an extent done to me to "help with my Asperger's" that I didn't need, in 2 of the schools after the private one and something discrimatory said once in a third. I complained about it years later to my parents and they said I was acting like a special snowflake, complaining like that. THEY TREATED ME LIKE A f*****g SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE and they EXPECT ME TO NOT ACT LIKE ONE? And by complaining about my special treatment, I was really being the opposite in my opinion.

I went to a private school through high school. It was a very positive experience for me. If I had gone to a public school, I probably wouldn't be alive today.

I've always been in private school. But it's private school for students with autism.

I was offered to go to a private school for autistics but I chose to go to public school with very mixed results. I might have done better in a private school but I passed with the special ed teachers practically dragging me through it.

In the US..

IF the private school takes NO federal funding, they do not have to proved for disabled children other than what is required for access into the building. The school has to be handicap accessible, handicap parking and bathrooms, but that is it.

I worked at a private school. We had a child that was wheelchair bound, but the parents provided a "health aide" that was screened and okayed by the board. The child was not intellectually disabled and was able to keep up with the class work. The PE class expectations were modified.

Once you start with kids with ADHD, ODD, FASD, ASD...pick random behavioral issues, the heels dig in on the school administration.

There are a lot of reasons why, but the biggest is parents pay s**t tons of cash so their little darling isn't dealing with outbursts, meltdowns, or a teacher who may have five kids with IEPs and no clue how to handle them.

Education is a business. My state is talking about vouchers. It's a scam. My old school already said it will raise entrance fees that will negate what ever the state hands over. Other schools set up a rigid entrance exams/expectations that no kid with behavioral issues would last a month. People are already predicting public schools with become a SPED dump, because they have to take anyone.

Autism supports can run $40K+ for kids with Aspergers in my district. That includes a para pro, speech therapy, possibly OP and PT too.

Curious were you diagnosed before your mom tried to enroll you and just overshared your issues, or was it so obvious that the school said "hard pass"? My school wouldn't knowingly take in ASD kids. Parents would omitted that chunk of information, and hope their kid could somehow managed. If it got to were the kid was burning up the teacher's attention more than her teaching class, that is when they were dismissed.

I know we taught kids on the spectrum, but it was more "Don't ask, don't tell", and accommodations were made if the administration deemed it reasonable. If you were on the verge of a meltdown, you could quietly leave to your safe zone. The school would not pay for paras and SPED teachers.

You dodged a bullet. Publics can be bad, but when private schools don't want a kid it can be really mean spirited. Nothing worse than a principal basically saying, "Your kid's an animal. Take him/her home."

I was excluded from a school for people with "emotional problems, etc" because my parents couldn't (or wouldn't) pay the tuition. They wanted to try me out in public school.

When I came to visit the school a year later, I was literally thrown out into the street by the principal of the school. True story.

The school that wouldn't let me in seemed to find the time to get a tutor for my sister who they did accept. Yet, I couldn't get in there.

I wanted to go to a private school that was held on the grounds of the local zoo. http://cincinnatizoo.org/education/the-zoo-academy/
My mom said I wouldn't be able to get in because my dysclaculia and autism. She believed it was a "brain farm" school. But apparently that is not the case. It's just a regualr school held on the grounds of a zoo. Wouldn't have been able to go anyway because we lived at least an hour away and my parents were too selfish to move. I possibly would have had motivation to learn if I was allowed to go there.

I don't really have anything to add except to say that is very cool.

There is a well-known tiny college in Arizona (I think) that is a working ranch. You read Plato and Shakespeare in the morning and the bale hay in the afternoon. I like quirky places like that.

That would be a very interesting place to go to school, Darmok!

I was denied by a private school when I was going into 6th grade. That had nothing to do with autism because I didn't have the diagnoses then. they looked at my school records and saw I was on the IEP so they didn't want to take me. My mom didn't like the school anyway because she found out they hit kids because "it's in the bible and what god wants when kids are bad" and it was a Christian school. Sadly it's not uncommon for private school to exclude kids with disabilities unless it's a private school for kids with a disability. There are autism schools, deaf schools, schools for kids with learning disabilities, schools for kids who have behavior.

My mom thought about putting me in a special school for kids with learning disabilities but none of them were in our town and all of them were located in Portland and they were only for residence down there. But my mom did know of one school that was ran by Providence and they took students from Washington but then my parents decided they wanted me in public school, not in a school for all kids have problems and I wouldn't learn social skills because it would all be normal behavior for me if they don't act appropriate and it would reinforce me to act that way too.

I never went to private school. My family at one point considered enrolling me in Catholic school when I was about 10 or 11. I was too scared to go to public school at the time because of the bullying. Financially, it would have been extremely difficult for us, so my mom decided to homeschool me instead for a couple of years. I eventually went back to public school for some of junior high and high school.

i think i remember i had the choice of going private, but when I went to a taster day i felt like I wouldn't fit in because most pupils were of different ethnicity (asian, indian, lower functioning people) so the alternative was comprehensive and therefore regret that decision but who knows if I would have flourished as it was a dormitory system rather than a live at home, study at school sort of learning experience - and as a child i remember the feeling of being tethered to my parents and do anything to hang on to it.