Is it an Aspie trait to only smile when it makes sense to?

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Throughout my life, I've noticed many people smile for seemingly no reason. I tend to only smile when something good happens or if something funny does. Some people I know think I'm consistently in a bad mood because of how rarely I smile, but I always have to explain that I'm in a neutral mood since nothing good or bad is happening. Is the tendency to only smile when one chooses based on how logical it is an Aspie trait?

Nope...can't say that this is an Aspie trait.

I often smile when it seems absurd to do so.

It's better, physically, to smile than to frown.

I really don't think people smile for no reason , there's always a reason. To me it sounds like the smiling you don't do is a type that most people use as communication - just a guess though

It just pisses me off when people think it's obligatory to smile even when there's no logical reason to. Why smile if you're not actually happy or amused?

I try to smile as I'm fed up with people telling me to cheer up. It must work as people have stopped telling me cheer up.

I suppose that's a logical reason to smile.

For me smiling is a very important gesture , it doesn't always mean I'm happy or amused , it can be a very useful ice breaker.

Sometimes, I value a smile when I'm depressed.

... and it can turn into a habit. Not a bad thing really.

I can't be around a person who is always dour. I need a counterpoint to myself lol

Thing is, I'm not even dour most of the time. I'm just in a neutral mood and not particularly happy or upset.

^^^ I know what you mean. Neutral mood = neutral expression. Unfortunately with some people (including me... especially me) a neutral expression can be interpreted as glum. It was worse when I was a kid... I never even understood why people were always telling me to cheer up.

I usually smile a lot when I like people. I have difficulties to smile e.g. when I have to great neighbors or the salesperson in a store because I don't really know anything about them and so I have to force myself to come off as friendly.

I totally get this. It actually came up with my psychologist the other day. The whole "how are you feeling today" thing. I replied exactly with "neutral" which got a raised eyebrow. Not sure what the big deal is. People often confuse my neutral with mad too. They think if your not smiling your mad.

Smiling all the time could be a mask for how the person really feels on the inside. I've seen people on TV shows like Dr. Phil who are smiling a lot and giggling while talking about awful things they've gone through or awful things that they've done. Seriously, that's just freaky. And look at the Joker.

This and to communicate I am not a threat or hostile.

Sometimes, "neutrality" could, to an "average" person, be worse than outright hostility.

From the viewpoint of the "average" person, outright hostility is something that is tangible; whereas, in "neutrality," it is thought that the person is "hiding something."