Can asperger's make you socially paranoid? (and other stuff)
Hi.
I have a question. Can the inability to read between the "lines" in social situations lead to "social paranoia"?
"Social paranoia" is probably a term I have invented so let me explain what I mean:
By "social paranoia" I that because I can't figure out what people really mean by what they are saying, my "social blindness" causes me to come up with totally wrong interpretations about their "actual" point, or demand, or judgment about me. In other words, because I can't read "between the lines" in a conversation, I make up stuff in my mind about what could be "between the lines". Of course, what I read between the lines is never what people actually meant. So I'm totally misinterpreting the stuff, mainly by trying to deconstruct logically the said words and their meaning to decode the mood or point or message behind the said words. So each and every single time I believe I've read something "between the lines", I'm totally WRONG. I call this "social paranoia".
This reminds me of the term confabulation:
Of course, confabulation has to do with memory. But on a deeper level, it's about making stuff up that aren't there, because the parts of brain that are supposed to "know what's going on" are not functional or physically damaged/absent. It makes a lot of sense to me that I'm so in need to know what people actually mean, that my brain, inherently unable to read social cues, has started to make stuff up, namely the intention behind people's behavior and words, for which I'm not in possession of a functional neural circuit.
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Male
Aspie score: 131 of 200
NT score: 34 of 200
Possibly Aspie (diagnosed by an autism expert, doc moves abroad, forced to change docs and all say it's schizophrenia NOS or schizo-affective disorde or personality disorders. initial doc was a colleague of uncle Simon btw. you do the math.). (edit: by Uncle Simon I mean Simon Baron Cohen. Just to clear things up.)
I think this video really summed up my experience with it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P1izup2uX3U&t=88s
I have been practicing the ask for clarifications part for quite some time now and it has definitely helped reducing my paranoia in social situations. However, because I have been used to this cycle for so long, it has become some kind of reflex where I would instinctively jump to the negative reaction. With this in mind, getting conscious of that reaction to ask for clarification before it happens has not always been easy, but I have gotten better at it.
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My first language is not English. Sorry for the mistakes.
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