Memory or Lying??

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Ok, I have a question. Are there cases where someone who is on the spectrum has two personalities and believes btoh sides of them to be themselves?

Example: "I like she is undeniably beautiful".. then in a random discussion later down the road "I would never have said that, that isn't me, you must be remembering wrong"

Another example: "I would love for you to come with me" .. then later again in a later discussion "I wouldn't have said that, maybe I just told you what you wanted to hear" --- I have SO many examples of this

I spent a long time feeling like I was being gaslighted.. when I mentioned this he said I was doing this to him. I thought he had split personalities. Thought he was a narcissist. (The seemingly lying, never saying sorry, not accepting blame, always making things about him) He was diagnosed ASD ... Now I see him REALLY trying... however he likes to make me look smaller or dumb in front of people, will ignore me, glance often at women and say he isn't, seem more interested in pretty women, says I am seeing things.

I mean I am still trying to sort out personality verses ASD.. I need help though. I read about ASD at LEAST 3 times a week. There is not much information that is helpful. If I express feelings and if he is the one hurting them, I am being manipulative.. almost instant meltdowns if he gets defensive...

When we talk to our therapist I make it very clear that I just want to understand... he throws me under the bus and makes people question me by throwing my past in a conversation or telling our therapist that I am being manipulative (he doesn't know that I heard him say this, by accident) he then had the nerve to try and hold my hand when the therapist asked me to come back in.

I am confused and I really REALLY want to understand. Is it ASD or something else or a combo?

Tell him to stop being douchy.

This is not ASD. It's being a jerk.

You need to get that man out of your life for good. Just because someone has a mental illness doesn't mean you have to stay supportive if your 1 life becomes so unhappy that you feel you are not being supported in return. Relationships should strengthen you, not make you feel weak or inferior.

Who is this person? Your partner? Get away from him, he sounds toxic and abusive. Look up gaslighting and abusive relationships. They often turn it around on the victim.

The other posters are right. You need to dump that guy. You don't deserve to be treated like that.