Hurtful micro-expressions

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Anyone else have it where they're hyper sensitive to micro expressions people make, but can't figure out what they said wrong? I spent the last 7 years with the same people who accepted me, but now I'm in college and have to try to remember how I ever managed to make friends. It seems, though, that everything I say is somehow... wrong. I've tried being funny, but no one shares my sense of humor. I've tried finding things we could all relate to, but they don't care about slugs or Halloween or stim toys (which are pretty much my only interests), and whenever I open my mouth they look either annoyed or disgusted. Anyone else experience this or know how to stop getting the looks? I honestly don't mind being alone 99% of the time, but I'm still lonely every once in awhile and it hurts knowing no one really likes me. I've even managed to stop talking about my interests altogether, but to no avail. Any advice?

Well people who react like that don't really sound like friends, maybe it is time to look for new friends. Also I am not super interested in slugs I do find snails a bit more facinating...but I am really interested in bugs/insects/arachnids and such myself I had someone tell me the other day that they think the most they have learned about bugs has been from me talking about them.

I mean I can only figure these people just aren't very interested..but it may be possible to find people more interested in those topics. Also though it doesn't hurt to try and expand your interests as well so maybe you can have more things to relate to people on. I find that sometimes looking into things related to your current interests is a good way to develop new ones as well.


Also though sometimes if people look bored, its just because of the topic..they don't nessisarily dislike you might just be done with hearing about whatever topic. So sometimes it can help to maybe switch to something else or give other people a turn to talk when people seem to have impatient/bored expressions. I mean having aspergers it can be easy to just keep going on and on, but you have to keep in mind other people want to talk and be heard to..so you have to kind of try and balance your talking about things with listening to them talk about things.

Don't not talk about your interests, but maybe gauge the situation a little first...like if people are talking about one thing it is probably best not to interject with something entirely different. Also just try not to go on too long about your interests...I mean its not so much people dislike you for your interest, its more if they hear too much of it its overwhelming and they may feel like they can't get a word in. I mean sure if you find someone just as obsessed with a topic as you are then talk your head off....but for general interaction it is best to try and simplify a bit and keep it more brief till you know people better and what they are interested in.

Find people outside of college.

I actually don't talk all that much, and usually allow other people to guide conversations. In fact, in most cases, I'm the one who can't get a word in edgewise and am being overloaded with information about their topic. I learned early on people who I just met would rather talk about themselves than hold an actual conversation, so I usually end up learning *a lot* about people while they don't really care to learn about me. The few friends I've made actually helped keep the conversation to 50-50 of each of us talking. Honestly these people aren't considered my friends, they're just every person I've tried to befriend since I entered college. Thank you for your reply, though!