The silent treatment

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This is something that has toutured me my whole life. People think that because I dont say hi or talk to them Im being a b***h. No, its just that Im not saying anything. How does that make me a b***h? Whats so wrong with a person keeping to themselves?

Sometimes some NTs and extroverts act like if someone does not verbally acknowledge, and then engage in a conversation with them, that the AS or introvert is acting like he/she is too arrogant to talk to or otherwise interact with someone. More specifically, the NT or extrovert in question

As an AS and introvert, my impression of NT and extroverts is that they act like they are so important that they have a moral duty to publicly broadcast every thought and emotion going through their precious lil heads

Do you respond when they say something to you or nod your head to knowledge you hear them? If not, then I don't know what to tell you then because I never never heard of that accusation for anyone who is silent and doesn't say much. Instead people just assume you're shy or secretive or might think you're just anxious or worst of all think you are going to shoot up a school if you're in high school because of that stereotype of school shooters being loners and quiet people. That does come from shooters who were shy and quiet and outcasts so some people have turned it into a stereotype.

It's a question of degree. Someone who talks all the time or not at all is at the extremes of the communication spectrum, and most people aren't. People interpret the silent treatment as someone deliberately ignoring them and trying to hurt them, so if those are not your intentions, you may have to speak with them at least to clarify that you are not intending to be hostile by giving them the silent treatment. They may have trouble believing that however, as communication is the foundation of all kinds of relationships..

Totally agree, I usually feel the same way.

I have a hard time engaging in conversations that don't feel genuine, and hi how are you usually fits that. I've been trying to acknowledge more that most people expect the niceties. Even if it doesn't feel natural to me, remembering to say good morning to the guy in starbucks making my coffee or how was your weekend to a colleague when I don't actually care, is the way they know that I see and recognize them. People want attention.