I don't get why it's supposed to be sad sometimes

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I don't get it.
I see a lot of people on facebook complaining about how kids these days stare at their smart phones all the time, and that's supposed to be "sad".

And like, how kids love to play Pokemon GO is supposed to be "sad".
I don't play Pokemon GO (but I like other Pokemon games), but I don't feel sad if kids play it.

What's wrong with kids staring at phones and playing Pokemon GO anyway?

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There are also other times that I just don't see why people get upset.

My mum got really upset when I told her "People who have difficulty with technology are just meant to be eliminated by society soon."
She complained that I wasn't patience enough when teaching her computer, and I said "But that's because you are way more difficult to teach than everyone else."
That, made her, really upset.

And my mum gets really upset when I (and my dad) told her that she's not good at cooking.
She gets really upset when I eat out.
She said she worked really hard at cooking the food, but I just think that if you don't have talent, just don't try.
I cook way better than her and way quicker than her, I just feel that she's wasting her time.

Oh, and people get really upset when other people tell them that they aren't talented, or that the drawing was horrible, etc.
Some people even get upset when it comes to constructive criticism in art.

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I don't know what I'm missing.

Its because they supposedly do that, and don't do other things. Like interact in real life. Get outdoors. Do real things.

Because whenever young people are into something the adults think it must be evil, and to them that's sad. It's been that way probably forever. It was like that when I was a kid with popular video games like Pac-Man, which one of the earliest "obsessions" I had back then.

I only agree about the smart phones. But then again I think it's bad enough to even have a home phone.

Technology addiction

Brain fog

Causes cancer

Takes time away from social interactions

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My mum got really upset when I told her "People who have difficulty with technology are just meant to be eliminated by society soon."

Nobody is good at everything. "Survival of the fittest". Being good at technology is a survival skill. But so is being tactful, patient, tolerant and understanding



She complained that I wasn't patience enough when teaching her computer, and I said "But that's because you are way more difficult to teach than everyone else."
That, made her, really upset.

There is no correct amount of patience


And my mum gets really upset when I (and my dad) told her that she's not good at cooking.

Why did you tell her that? You can't measure cooking skill. Maybe she took it as an insult



She gets really upset when I eat out.

Eat out, and avoid eating what she cooked?

Eat out with her $$?

Eat out to avoid sitting down at the table with her?


She said she worked really hard at cooking the food, but I just think that if you don't have talent, just don't try.

Maybe she has more talent than you think

Maybe she worked harder than you recognize

Some talents can get improved with practice. Such as cooking

I cook way better than her and way quicker than her, I just feel that she's wasting her time.

Would she rather be doing something else?

If that is what you think, offer to do more cooking so she can do less

Oh, and people get really upset when other people tell them that they aren't talented, or that the drawing was horrible, etc.


Some people even get upset when it comes to constructive criticism in art.

Did they ask for feedback,?

Not everyone is talented at art

Besides, if you give compliments, that is also judgmental

And if you compliment something that was not difficult, that sounds like you do not think they can do better



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I don't know what I'm missing.[/quote]

Tell me, are you yourself good at taking criticism? Or do you resent it and obsess on it, even if it was fair criticism, for the rest of your life? Seems like a lot of Aspies are still fuming over stuff their teachers and families said to them all the way down to pre-school age.

Now, imagine having your own child tell you that you suck at cooking, you are too difficult to teach, and that your generation is going to die soon. Even if it were true you would find it upsetting, and probably spend time ruminating on it.The reason why you don't get why it's supposed to be sad is because as an autistic you have an impaired ability to put yourself in her place.

Ariel hawks quill

I am bad at taking criticism. Compliments are no good, either. Unless done skillfully

Positive judgments are just as judgmental as negative judgments

And making a positive judgment implies that the speaker has the moral authority to make negative judgments too

And it implies the speakers opinion matters



If the OP told her mom, her mom was bad at cooking, then the OP should take over the cooking. Otherwise do not comment on someone else's cooking....you can't measure quality. Maybe someone else loves the OP mom's cooking. And what if the quality is bad, then what? Everyone is bad at something. Nobody is good at everything

Same with learning technology. Some people are bad at computers and other forms of technology. Those people still have emotions. Computer skills are job skills. Not choices or moral quality










Having said that, I am bad at computers and cooking