Anyone else struggle with differing communication styles wi

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I'm having a hard time navigating some issues with my partner, because when I'm upset I really struggle with verbal communication, but they are dyslexic and struggle with written communication.
When we talked about a stressful situation last night, they got mad at me for being upset, repeating myself, being unclear, etc. ALL of which are things that happen because I'm forcing myself to communicate verbally for their sake. I also seem to need to logically/explicitly resolve issues, whereas they would rather "drop it" when they are ready to move on. I can't move on until I know that we understand each other, but we seem to have a hard time understanding each other in situations like this.
Anyone else go through something similar? I'd love to hear your experiences or any advice you may have for handling differing communication styles such as this.
Thank you!

I communicate mostly by touch and words, my husband via pictures and intonation... I also have this trait of not liking leaving issues unsolved.
But the only things that work seem to be patience and good will. In a conflict situation, leaving the topic for some time so we can calm down before discussing it seems to help.
But in general, you need to experiment and see what works for you. Maybe find some way to give a message like "wait until I am back able to speak" ? Maybe asking them to wait and be silent for the time you need to gather your thoughts? Experiment and see what works, that's my advice.

I wish I could help you, but I struggle with verbal communication even when I'm not stressed.I'm inarticulate on the outside, but not in my mind. My inner voice struggles to communicate with my outer voice -- with most people (I think) they are combined into 1, but for me I have separate voices. I have to think before I can talk. Even when I know what to say, the transfer between my mind & mouth goes slower than dial-up. I need to upgrade my ISP (internal speech provider).