kraftiekortie wrote:
Of course you know I was stating only a theory--that is based upon what both women and men have told me.
I knew a guy who slouched on purpose--even though he was only about 190 cms tall--only "average" tall, not extremely tall.
I'm "attached" to the above based upon the above. Of course, it might not apply to you.
Have people found you too "stiff" when you consciously seek to have perfect posture? In my case, they have.
Sorry, sorry, was irritable, and it's not your fault. The truth is, a couple of guys have asked me, ever-so-politely, whether I slouch because I don't want people to see my tits. Just being helpful, you see. Which tells you a lot about what these guys think about.
The answer is a combination of poor muscle tone, vitamin D deficiency and a back injury, that destroyed my previously good posture. Recently, I seem to be getting better. I lost a bit of weight, and also, although it seems weird, the diagnosis thing was such a positive development for me that I simply feel stronger and happier, and I'm standing up straighter.
It's possible that people have found me 'too stiff', but honestly, for a woman, that's all right. I think I am about averagely attractive, but I've never had to deal with a lot of the sexual harrassment that a lot of other women on the spectrum have had to put up with, and I think that partly has to do with looking a bit 'scary'. I'm ok with that.
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