Threatened or assaulted for social blunder?

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Wondering if anyone ever got physically accosted in some way for making a seemingly innocuous social blunder? I don't mean being snapped at or "Hey!! WTF are you doing/saying?" and then apologizing and it's all right...but when someone acts really aggressively and you had no idea that you'd offended them in some way?

It does seem that at times in life, we may have been faced with some of these "social vigilantes" who take it upon themselves to teach us a lesson for transgressing certain unstated rules...or sometimes they're just a***oles like narcissistic macho types who blow things out of proportion, paradoxically, they can be quite thin-skinned.

This was actually a bit of a deterrent (which I gradually overcome) to flirting with women in bars; it wasn't so much being intimidated by a woman's beauty as it was that something I might say would inadvertently offend her and get her to stick some crazy guy-friend on me, or I wouldn't pick up that she was there with someone already.

I think at the end of the day, all you can do is apologize and say that you had no intention of offending anyone, and that you would never have said such-and-such if I realized it was going to have the connotation that it did.
Then hope for the best...

Yes, I have been arrested and jailed for not understanding certain social cues and boundaries. As a result; this has forced me to be hyper-vigilant in public and avoid public when possible.

Johntober

That is exactly what I am afraid of

Numerous times, strangers and others have had the nerve to tell me that I was looking at them the wrong way, or "what are you looking at? I break your jaw".

Some of them are so arrogant that they truly believe that anytime someone does the slightest thing wrong, it is a personal insult and worthy of an unlimited amount of anger. Anger expressed in any form. Legal or illegal

And everything that they do not like is wrong.

But I ain't telepathic or psychic. So I do not know what will make someone unleash a disproportionate amount of anger.

Someone of them are mentally ill

Some have already gone to jail and have little to lose

Some might have a weapon

Some are physically stronger than me

Some have friends

And if you do not do anything they do not like, it's like whooptie do

Like walking on eggshells

One of numerous reasons why I am paranoid, uptight, afraid, angry, hateful



They act like there is no "pick your battles"

So I pretty much just avoid everyone







Not worth the cost benefit analysis