quirkyboy wrote:
It's always been bad.From childhood i can remember being thrown into a frenzy by dishes clanging together,doors slamming,anything loud has bothered me.Except for music.I'm a musician and I can stand loud music,but even that can be off-putting if it's really loud.I get physically angry at people talking too loud or banging things.This has made relationships very difficult.Living with a woman who is a great,talented singer/songwriter is nice,but if she's singing (even softly) while I'm trying to concentrate on a book or a tv show.I get really visibly angry bordering on rage..SometimesThis isn't helpful when you're trying to keep a relationship going.It's caused me to hide away and avoid a lot of situations .It may cause this relationship to end.Anybody out there having similar problems?Thanks
I can totally relate to being angry with someone singing!
I used to get furious with my mother for doing so...it distracted me and I felt it violated my space and concentration, and I took it as a personal attack on me, but without being able to verbalize it.
And I still carry that anger to this day, only now I just feel slightly annoyed (because I've learned that it's not a personal attack
), and I will leave the room if I need to. (But I still cringe inside...)
I, too, love music...the louder the better if it's got a good groove goin'.
But as much as I love electronics, I can't stand their humming.
The noise from lights bug me.
CHEWING....AAAGGGHHHHH!! !!
And too many people talking at once can bring me to a complete 'get me out of here as fast as I can' mode.
And having the tv too loud or on at the same time as the stereo.....flippin' torture!
Actually, these are probably most of the reasons why I left my last husband...!(That's a topic for another time
)
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