I am going to be suffocated by a giant tuna fish!

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I absolutely cannot stand the smell of fish or any other kind of seafood. I cannot bear to look, smell, taste, touch, or sometimes even think about seafood. The kind I cannot stand the most is tuna. Yet this is the kind of seafood that my mum and brother eat the most often. My brother used to tease me by bringing a spoonful of tuna near me and trapping me in the corner with it in front of my face. If a little piece of tuna so much as touched me, I would have to take a shower and wash the clothes I was wearing before I could relax again. After someone has eaten seafood, I will be scared to come near them or the kitchen for a few days. I will feel like the house has been contaminated and I will feel really yucky for several days after. My mum knows I cannot stand seafood, yet she insists on eating it sometimes. She says she doesn't eat it often, which is true, but even being exposed to it once is enough to make me want to run away from home. I cannot come out of my room untill the smell has gone away and I will yell and throw things at anyone who tries to open my door. I already am araid to go into the kitchen, whether anyone has eaten seafood or not. My mum complains when I haven't taken a shower for a few days and I smell of body odor. She says it is unfair to her for me to not take a shower for a few days when I am living in the same house as her. She says that it is different from me not being able to stand the smell of fish, because body odor really is disgusting and fish is not. Is it completely unfair for my mum and my brother to continue to eat seafood in the house, or am I just being stupid?

it is unfair that they are saying your dislike of fish is inferior to their dislike of body odour because everyone has the right to their opinion and one is not less than the other.
i think they should be more considerate if it upsets you so much and if they want to eat fish so bad go out somewhere to do it.

well, your hatred for seafood is quite uncommon, therefore it's understandable that they don't see how badly you take it. and maybe it's so strange for them that they choose to downplay it, instead of taking it seriously. taking it seriously would just be harder for them to deal with.

The door swings both ways....

What do you mean? Do the fish hate smelling us?

I know that feeling, Chris -- I have a similar reaction to tobacco smoke, and my dad and brother are both pack-a-day puffers. Last time I visited Dad, I found myself coughing and snuffling the entire drive home (1.5 hours), trying to get the smell/taste out of my system.

I wish I knew what to suggest, short of putting a clothespin on your nose every time they break out the Chicken of the Sea. You may be stuck with it until you're grown and can move out.

i moved out right after i finished the university. my mom and her boyfriend are heavy smokers. when i come home to visit her, it's like to be in a cheap pub being around them. when i lived with my parents before, i didn't mind, i was used to it. now it's really disturbing and it's driving me crazy.

I can stand cigarette smoke to a certain degree, but i HATE..as in will get a headache if I am in the same building with...go crazy around cigar smoke.

Also..commercial perfumes.
I used to work for a music store and every evening as I would be sitting on the sidewalk playing with the ants, waiting to get picked up, the well dressed families would file past me for their piano recitals reeking of commercial perfume and other products....and I would get a headache from the fowl stench of their chemical artificial cleanliness....there would be a floating lingering vapor around them..that was just awful.

I have a fish allergy! a very severe one but the smell doesn't bother me. EGGS bother me.
so does the smell of a packed lunch that has been sitting in a box or bag all day.

Yeah, thing is tobacco smoke is a health hazard where as fishy smell is just unpleasant. If like your mom says it is only occassionally then perhaps you could suggest to her that she take 'necessary precautions' like washing up everything used in preparation straight away, opening all the windows and maybe burning a citronella candle.

i can sympathise because it really used to offend me when my mother used to eat ripe blue cheese - as far as i was concerned she may as well have taken a dump in the middle of the room - because that is how much it repulsed me!

How often you should wash depends on how dirty you get. Actually 3 days of body odour smells bad for a reason, hygiene becomes a health hazard at some point. i usually draw the line at 2 days but my ex often wouldn't wash until the 4th day and i had no problems with that

This sort of sensitivity is common in aspies. NTs usually dont realise exactly how repulsive and worrying an aspie can find something, even the most innocent items. A sibling teasing with something is fairly standard in any family, but a parent really should be more responsive to something this distressing.

Its not merely a matter of taste or opinion, its part of the genuine chemical imbalances that are part and parcel of AS. Hypo/Hypersensitivity to noises, light, sound, and odours can be a blight on an Aspies life. Personally, I have a tendecy towards vomiting if i taste sprays, such as deodorant, perfume, or air freshener. If one is sprayed in a room, Ill often as not be unable to breathe properly, and promptly leave. If it contaminates a food source, like a cup of tea, or a sandwich, then I absolutely cannot stomach it. Thats usually the point where I go ballistic at the sprayer of the offending chemical.