a REG: Nonverbal Wedding?

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Hello everyone!

My fiancée (Alexis) and I are planning to get married sometime in this near future (estimated sometime in 2018). And this was originally presented a a “joke item” in one of our phone calls, but we both agree that we both want to “grow old together” and so if we were to have a small wedding, it would be a “nonverbal wedding” because I plan to use my iPad to say everything from my vous to the final “I do...” whereas Alexis would be completely verbal for the whole process.

We were thinking on programming everything in on a “My Wedding” page and either having one of my brides maids holding the device while I cue in the right buttons at the right points, or me holding my own device to facilitate the bits where I need to communicate. Another more dynamic option is to have me type up everything “in the moment” with nothing pre-programmed.

What do y’all think of this concept? Any suggestions? Do you have any ideas on how to make the whole thing more autism friendly and aware?

Note our colors will be black, white, and Magenta.

Would anyone want to added such an event?

I don't have any particular objection to this.....

I guess, if the love of my life wants a "nonverbal" wedding, that I should probably support her fully in this.

Maybe a little bit of both?

The amazing thing about weddings is that it's completely up to you how you want it to go. Do what makes you happy!

Program everything that you might need, but I would encourage you to type what you can in the moment, particularly the "I Do"s.

Thank you all for your input! I really appreciate you all!

I went to a wedding where phones were used by both the bride and groom.
There were long delays and they made some stuff-ups and had to start again and I don't really know what anyone said because I couldn't hear anything and the groom started getting heckled by the guests.
It was a riot.

I would prefer to type in the moment because it is more of being here at the moment and actively taking part of it. But I guess a pre-programmed site could be a nice backup.

Isn't marriage actually just signing a contract/document? Everything else, including "I do", brides maids, colors etc. is just tradition/religion as far I know.
So do what you like.
It should work, if you are actually having trouble speaking but if you don't some people might have some problem with it. They might say: "Why making yourself more disabled than you are?", "Are you making fun of the church? Just speak like everyone else." etc. You decide what will be easier for you - going nonverbal and listening to their complaints or speaking a few words.

I don't like weddings personally though so if I were to get married I would just sign the piece of paper and get it over with, without the religious/traditional parts.

I also like the idea of typing in the moment. It makes it more magical.